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The minute one thing in a marriage becomes divided, everything starts to fall apart. In this episode of Couples Academy Live, we discuss consistency, talk about communication, trust after an affair, and how to stay spiritually and emotionally connected. Learn how to rebuild trust, strengthen your bond, and get your marriage back on track.

Couples Academy Online Program – Hasani and Danielle Pettiford, the founders, present their learning academy based on relationships with the objective of enhancing and fostering healthy and successful relationships. Hasani and Danielle have spent over ten years coaching, intensives, conferences, and best-selling books, and now present their online experience with their six-module program, which can be accessed anywhere in the world, with weekly lessons and optional live access to coaching calls, fostering support, accountability, and transformation of your relationships!

Over the years, I’ve come to a quiet but unavoidable conclusion: a man often becomes a reflection of how the woman closest to him treats him. Not because he is weak, not because he lacks agency, but because the home is a mirror. Respect, or the lack of it, has a way of shaping posture, confidence, and spirit.

A man who is respected at home walks differently. He speaks with steadiness. He carries responsibility without resentment. A man who is constantly dismissed, undermined, or mocked doesn’t suddenly shed that at the front door. It shows. In his patience. In his silence. In his withdrawal. People love to talk about male responsibility, and rightly so, but responsibility does not grow well in contempt.

Marriage is not a performance. It is a daily culture that children observe with forensic attention. The way a wife treats her husband becomes the blueprint for how the children treat their father. If he is spoken to with respect, the children learn respect. If he is spoken over, belittled, or treated as optional, the children learn that too. Children do not need lectures. They copy behaviour.

The same truth runs in the other direction. A husband who treats his wife with care, honour, and consistency teaches his children how women should be valued. He sets the standard without shouting. A home where both parents undermine each other creates confusion, insecurity, and quiet resentment. No amount of progressive slogans can repair that damage.

Then there is time. The most memorable gift you can give your family is not money, not gadgets, not holidays carefully photographed for social media. It is time. Undistracted, present, unhurried time. Children rarely remember what their parents bought them. They remember who showed up. Who listened. Who stayed.

Time is costly. That’s why it matters. It requires sacrifice, attention, and a willingness to be emotionally available. A man who gives his family his time gives them stability. A woman who protects family time protects the home itself. Careers fade. Status shifts. Childhood does not wait.

Strong families are not built on dominance or submission but on mutual respect, clear roles, and shared purpose. When a husband and wife treat each other with dignity, children feel safe. When that dignity breaks down, children instinctively test boundaries and authority collapses from the inside.

We live in an age that mocks tradition while quietly suffering without it. But the old truths remain stubbornly relevant. How spouses treat each other matters. How parents show up matters. What children see every day becomes the world they expect.

The recent Times of India article titled “Together but apart! Why some Indian couples are choosing LAT marriages” is yet another glaring example of how certain sections of the media are deliberately trying to erode the very foundation of Indian family values and India’s civilizational ethos.

Surprisingly, this is not just Times of India. Within weeks, India Today ran “Can ‘Living Apart Together’ marriages be a hit in India?”, Indian Express published “Love in separate spaces: Why Indian couples are embracing the ‘living apart together’ trend”, The Telegraph ran “LATent problems: Can love survive without living together?”, and Brides Today followed with “Why more married couples in India are choosing to live apart, together…”

Four leading publications, back-to-back, pushing the same narrative. Coincidence? Or a well-funded toolkit in action?

This another narrative is dangerous because Marriage in India is not just a contract between two individuals, it is a Samskar, a sacred commitment that binds two souls and two families. It is the cornerstone of our social and cultural fabric, ensuring stability, emotional security, and intergenerational continuity of values.

Promoting “LAT” (Living Apart Together) under the guise of modernity, feminism, and empowerment is nothing but an attempt to fracture the harmony of Indian families. LAT may be a coping mechanism in the West, where divorce rates are soaring, children grow up in broken homes, and loneliness has become a pandemic, but why should Bharat, which thrives on strong family bonds, import such a failed template?

This is the Western template which is imported and imposed upon Indians. In Western societies where divorce rates have skyrocketed, where children grow up in broken homes, and loneliness, LAT marriages emerged as an alternative to dysfunctional relationships. Why Should India — a civilization that has thrived for thousands of years on the strength of its familial bonds and family support systems, have always been the backbone of our resilience — import such failing models? Such narratives are alien to our ethos. The attempt to normalize these concepts by presenting rare cases (not even 0.001% of society) as a trend is misleading and malicious. Why adopt what the West is trying to fix?

Is it Feminism or Fragmentation? Under the garb of feminism and women empowerment, media houses are slyly pushing an agenda of isolation, detachment, and individualism. True empowerment lies in partnership, equality, and shared responsibility, not in promoting physical separation as a solution to marital challenges.

The narrative that distance strengthens love is not just flawed, it is a calculated attempt to weaken the institution of marriage, which is central to Sanatan Dharma and Indian society.

This is not an isolated attempt. From glorifying same-sex marriage, to mocking traditional roles, to pushing a boy to feel like a girl, to now romanticizing LAT, this is larger designed agenda to erode the Indian family system, the single strongest pillar of social stability in our civilization.

Media packages this as “choice” and “progress”, but progress does not mean cultural suicide.

The essence of marriage is companionship… sharing joys and sorrows, building a life together, raising children in an environment of trust and love. Yes, challenges exist in every relationship, but solutions lie in dialogue, understanding, and mutual adjustment, not in creating artificial distance.

We must call out such narrative warfare and misleading journalism; and reaffirm our faith in Indian values that celebrate family as the nucleus of society. Modernity need not mean abandoning tradition. True progress is when we blend contemporary aspirations with timeless values — not when we copy flawed Western experiments blindly.