#makingababy

Waiting for that phone call from our fertility doctor was nerve wrecking. It put us in a funk. I already knew what he was going to say, but a part of me was hoping he had better news. 

He called us as we were boarding our flight to Maui (which was a relief because I didn't want to be on vacation waiting for his phone call). He said good news and bad news. First, that I definitely had a block or kink in my remaining fallopian tube. Second, we had three options on what we can do about it. 

1. Go in for a fallopian tube recanulization. They basically stick something like a straw through my fallopian tube and force saline water through it. This will hopefully clear out whatever is blocking a flow through my fallopian tube. 

2. I go under general anesthesia and the doctor goes in with a camera and looks through my fallopian tube. Upon inspecting my fallopian tube, he can try and fix whatever is wrong with it. 

3. We skip all the testing and go straight to In Vitro Fertilization.

FAST FORWARD TO PRESENT>>>

It’s been awhile.... and a lot has changed. Stay with me, this is a lengthy post. Lets recap:

William and I finally got married. It took a while and there were plenty of ups and downs but we made it! We finished building our house a month after the wedding and was able to move in as husband and wife. That in itself needs its own post! We might get to that later... This post is about present time. 

It’s been 1 year and 10 months since we got married and in that time, we managed to get pregnant! I shared the news of our pregnancy in June 2018. It was such an amazing feeling! Something that I can’t even begin to describe. We went along as any normal couple would do who just found out they were pregnant; we started speaking to my belly, downloading all the apps, reading all the books, and we even started telling family and close friends.  

On August 20, 2018, it the was the day of William’s graduation ceremony. Something we have looked forward to since probation started. I woke up to excruciating pain and bleeding. I took myself to the emergency room and after 6 hours of waiting, blood tests, vaginal exams, and ultrasounds, I was told I had an ectopic pregnancy. Ectopic pregnancy are rare and very dangerous. Its when the embryo implants itself in someplace other than the uterus. In my case, it was my fallopian tube. I needed to abort our baby and remove my fallopian tube because if I didn't I would bleed out and die (That’s exactly what our doctor said). It was such an emotional day. I called William and he immediately left his graduation and came to the hospital. That healing process was such an emotional roller coaster and we couldn't have done it without the love and support of each other. 

We thought that after we healed and processed our grief, we would be on our way to making another baby. 6 months later, on February 8th, 2019, I found myself right back in the ER with the same kind of pain I felt 6 months ago. 10 hours later, they tell me I need to have another surgery because during the ultrasound, they found a 6cm cyst on my left ovary. The cyst was causing all the  pain. 

This brings me to present time. My surgeon informed me that visually my female reproductive parts looked healthy but she suggested we see a fertility specialist just to make sure. So we had our first fertility appointment yesterday and that was overwhelming. He told us that getting pregnant is easy as long as three major factors are working: my ovaries, my remaining fallopian tube, and William’s sperm count. 

To test my ovaries, he ordered a simple blood test during my next period.

To test my fallopian, an out patient procedure called Hysterosalpingogram (HSG) will be done. The test takes no longer than a half hour. It involves placing an iodine-based dye through the cervix and taking x-rays. These x-rays help evaluate the shape of the uterus and whether the fallopian tubes are blocked.

And lastly, to test William’s sperm, he will need to give them a sperm sample after abstaining from ejaculation for 3-4 days. 

I wrote this post because I wanted to share our fertility journey. I never thought this road would come, but we’re here and it’s very real. Hopefully I can keep up with this documentation and share our journey with all of you. Thanks for reading, and I’ll let you know how the tests go...

‘I see my future in an instant….I think I found my bestfriend’ These are the two lines from our wedding song that sum us up.

Mags is my bestfriend and my whole world. When I first met her I knew that I wanted her in my life, she was the only person I have ever wanted like that, she is the only person that I have ever pursued and eventually she noticed me. To cut a long story short we have been inseparable eversince.

So how did we decided on having a family? Mags and I were out for the night, not unusual, we had only been together a few weeks and in our early twenties, we were out alot. Mags was sat next to me, she turned to me and shouted over the music ‘I have an important question to ask’ ‘It could make or break us…’ My heart was pounding, even after a few weeks I knew I was in love with her, what could she possibly be asking me. ‘Do you want to have children? ’ she asked and without flinching or hesitation I answered ‘Yes, I always have.’ She stood up and walked to the bar. I was sat in my seat, none the wiser as to whether or not it was the right answer. It felt like a lifetime before she returned, I playfully asked ‘Did I make or break us?’….trying to sound cool, like it was not a big deal but so much riding on this one question! I wouldn’t want to comprises my life long dream of being a mum but she was already so important to me, it would have been a hard decision to make. She looked into my eyes, her whole face smiled and then as cool as she is took a swig from her drink…and then I knew we were on the same page.