Resolutions, Intentions, Goals and Being Fearless With a Plan
There is much discussion about whether itās good to make resolutions, and/or set intentions and goals for the new year. Hereās my takeā¦
I remember my mother saying āthe road to hell is paved with good intentionsā. While I think this may be an exaggeration, there is some truth to it. We can intend and resolve to do something all day long, but unless we actually get up and do, it really doesnāt matter.
Setting goals, is just more of the same in my opinion.
What actually needs to happen is thisā¦we must do the inner work on ourselves, realize our worth, seek out our gifts and really love who we areā¦right where we are. Itās only then that we will have the confidence to accomplish the things we want to accomplish!
Donāt get me wrongā¦there are very successful people who probably donāt really like who they are. They have power and money and prestige, BUTā¦are they happy? Do they get up in the morning, excited to start the day? Do they have good relationships with their spouses? Do they have good friends? Most likely, the answer is no. Personally, I want the entire packageā¦great relationships, a business that makes my heart sing, financial abundance and the freedom to do things I want!
When 2022 came to an end, I had a feeling of disappointment that I had to process.
I spent last year doing some deep inner work. I took courses, journaled, studied and really took a deep dive into the why of my life and how I could let go of the past and move forward. This was not an easy process, but I know with certainty that I grew as a person. In many ways, I was fearless, but, looking back, I can still see where I let fear stop me from fully living.
Itās can be difficult to put yourself out there in a big way and I held back to some extent and thatās why I have been feeling disappointed. The word I chose for last year was focus and focus I did. I focused on learning and growing and yes, working. I not only learned about myself, I learned many technical things that have helped me be take full ownership of my business. I think itās great to delegate and hire people to do things that you donāt love to do, or donāt have time to do, but itās also good to know how to do those things, just in case the time comes when you need to know. The person that had helped me with my blog for many years, suddenly quit in June of 2022 and I had to scramble to learn how to do some of the things that he had always done. I still have things to learn, but Iām getting there and Iām sure it was a sign that it was time to move out of my comfort zone!
There is always something to be grateful for and in my reflection of the past year, gratitude is what helped me to see my growth and blessings and let go of the disappointment! I made many wonderful memories, and the things I learned last year will help me grow this year!
Soā¦after all of the reflection, Iāve chosen fearless as my word for 2023. Fearless, however, is just a word, much like resolution and intention, so Iāve also chosen to be fearless with a plan. I read a quote years ago and it saidā¦āplan your work and work your plan (I have no idea who said it). Thinking isnāt the same as planningā¦planning is getting out the calendar, or the white board, or your planner, and actually scheduling things that will move you forwardā¦from day to day and month to month.
Think of yourself as 3 people in oneā¦the planner, the doer and the one who celebrates! The part of you that is the planner, is crucial to making your dream life happen. The doer is the part of you that executes the plan. The doer takes a certain kind of energy and works best with a plan because otherwise, the doer is ābusyā for the sake of being busy and thatās wasted energy. I can see where I spent a great deal of time in ādoer energyā last year and it was more frustrating than productive. Lastly, donāt forget to include the part of you that takes the time to be grateful, and celebrate what youāve been able to accomplish!
Now, letās talk about fear! Fearless is a loaded word, because no matter what, youāll still feel the fear. I would define fearless and feeling the fear and doing what you need to do in spite of it!
Fear only exists in your mind, but it can stop you from living the life you want to live. Fear keeps you stuck in an endless loop of living the same day, or the same year, over and over again. This does not make for a good life. The only way to push past the fear and do the thingā¦whatever the thing is for you, is to learn to love yourself. Soā¦you may need to have a year like I had last year. Maybe this is the year you give yourself the gift of coming to terms with your s**t! You knowā¦all of the things that you were conditioned to believe as a child that youāve believed for way too long. I really do believe that letting go of limiting thoughts is a daily process that involves living consciously. Itās a Journey but itās definitely one worth starting!
You are important, simply because you are here. You have unique gifts to offer and sharing your gifts is a responsibility!
You can do whatever you want to do if you believe you can, become fearless, make a plan and work your plan. It may not be easy, but it will be worth it! What ifā¦2023 is the year you make it all happen?
