#maincharacterenergy

Go on pinterest and type in the prompts down below. Whatever image pops up first is your image.

Prompts: Color, quote, any character, hobby, accessory, any song/lyrics, flower. Here's mine-

hey lovelies!! 🦢

omg, so, i was literally journaling last night & this phrase just hit me like… so hard. "if it doesn't align with the dream life, it's a distraction." i had to stop writing and just sit with that for a min.

because honestly? i've been feeling so scattered lately. like my energy is going in a million directions but none of them are taking me where i actually want to go. and i realized that's exactly what happens when we don't have clarity on our it-girl blueprint.

so what even is an it-girl blueprint? it's not just aesthetic or vibes (tho those matter too!!) but it's this deep knowing of who you're meant to become. it's that version of you who wakes up excited, who feels aligned, who's living in her dream apartment with her dream career and her dream people. she exists!! she's waiting for you to become her!!

this post is a bit different from my most recents, i wanted to take a little tinyyy break from my pop culture series', like the pll x glowettee and vampire diaries x glowettee series' and just focus more on self-improvement again. i also wanted to take a break from the overwhelming aesthetics i've been using in my posts, and justtttt write~~ (no small text, no crazy colors, just my thoughts) and i realized that distractions have been very prominent in my life lately... so i wanted to address it in this post, and some possible solutions <3

✧ what's actually distracting you? ✧

okay so grab your journal rn and let's get super real about what's pulling you away from your dream life, feel free to use these prompts:

that situationship that makes you feel anxious every time they text (you know the one)

the hours of scrolling that leave you feeling empty inside

saying yes to plans when your body is literally begging you to rest

the "friend" who always has drama and makes everything about them

that project you started because you thought you "should" but you actually hate

staying in that job/class/situation because you're scared to disappoint someone

comparing your chapter 1 to someone else's chapter 20 (guilty!!)

i've been doing this work myself and it's kinda scary how many things i was pouring energy into that weren't actually taking me anywhere i wanted to go??

✧ getting clear on your actual dream life ✧

before we can align with our dream life, we need to know what it actually looks like! not what instagram or your mom or society thinks it should look like, but what YOU want.

some journal prompts that helped me:

when do i feel most like myself?

what activities make me lose track of time?

who makes me feel seen, safe, and supported?

what would my perfect morning routine look like if i had zero obligations?

what kind of spaces make me feel calm and inspired?

what would i do with my time if money wasn't an issue?

what parts of my current life would i keep even if i could change everything?

i did this exercise last weekend and realized that so many things i was chasing weren't even in my dream life blueprint?? like i was stressing about getting into this super competitive program but when i really thought about it, it wasn't even aligned with what i actually want. wild.

✧ how to actually make decisions that align ✧

okay, so here's my little framework for making choices that actually build your dream life:

the body check: before saying yes to anything, check in with your body. does it feel expansive and light, or contracted and heavy? your body literally knows before your brain does!!

the future self question: what would the version of you who's already living your dream life do? she knows!! trust her!!

the energy audit: does this person/activity/commitment give you energy or drain it? only say yes to energy-givers (this one changed my life omg)

the alignment test: ask yourself "does this move me closer to or further from my dream life?" be brutally honest!!

the joy metric: if it doesn't bring you joy or lead to joy, why are you doing it?? (unless it's like… taxes or something lol)

✧ how to let go of the distractions ✧

this is the hardest part tbh. because we get attached to things even when they're not serving us! here's what's helping me:

remember that saying no to something is saying yes to your dream life

start with the easiest distractions first (for me it was unfollowing accounts that made me feel bad)

create little rituals around letting go (i write things down and then burn the paper)

remind yourself that outgrowing things is part of becoming

be gentle with yourself when you slip back into old patterns (we all do it!!)

i had to let go of a friendship a few months that was taking so much energy, and it was really hard but also?? i suddenly had all this space to focus on things that actually matter to me.

✧ your dream life alignment practice ✧

here's a little daily practice i've been doing:

morning: set an intention to notice what aligns and what distracts

throughout the day: when making choices, ask "dream life or distraction?"

evening: celebrate the aligned choices you made + gently note the distractions

it's not being perfect!! it's becoming more conscious of our choices. because every tiny decision is either building your dream life or… not.

i've been doing this for about three weeks now and i already feel so much clearer and more focused. like i'm finally moving in one direction instead of being pulled in a million different ones.

remember: you deserve your dream life. and it starts with choosing it, over and over, in all the tiny moments.

question from mindy:

what's one distraction you're ready to let go of? and one aligned action you're ready to take? (feel free to send me a message in my inbox, or just reblog answering this question.)

xoxo, mindy 🤍

There’s something people often misunderstand about femininity : they confuse softness with naivety. They assume that a woman who looks good, who dresses well, who takes care of herself must not be paying attention to the game around her.

But I am, I always am.

Because being pretty isn’t my only skill, it’s just the first thing you notice.

Behind the gloss, the glow, and the effortless presence, there’s calculation. There’s timing. There’s restraint. I know exactly when to speak, and when to let silence do the talking. I know when to charm, when to pull back, and when to let people underestimate me because there’s nothing more powerful than being misread and still coming out on top.

Pretty privilege doesn’t mean I didn’t earn my place. It doesn’t mean I float through life untouched. It means I’ve learned how to use every part of me. My words, my image, my intuition to move in silence and win in style.

You can call it manipulation if you want. I call it elegance. I call it discernment. I call it feminine intelligence.

And no, I don’t always explain what I’m doing. Because when you really know your power you don’t need to prove it.

Affirmations are facts. They’re not suggestions. They’re not wishes. They’re not “let’s hope this works.” They’re declarations of identity.

Why are you tiptoeing around your decision?

Why are you still negotiating with your old story?

Why are you entertaining thoughts that don’t even belong to you anymore? They don’t serve you.

if you say you have it, then you HAVE it.

That’s it. That’s how it works. That’s the whole Law.

You don’t get to claim something and then go back and ask, “Wait… is it working? What if it’s not?”

You are the creator. Why would you question your own creation?

Creation is finished. Let there be light, there it was. You’re not out here building Legos every day. The version of you who has it already exists. You’re just aligning with that identity. You are all there is.

You decide and it’s yours. You don’t wait to see results. Know it’s done. It’s either you have it or not. You don’t get to serve two masters. That’s not how it works.

So ask yourself: Do you want it or not?

Because if you do, be firm in your decision. Stop going back and forth. A real decision doesn’t shake nor flinch. It holds. It owns. It stays.

You’re the only one keeping the old story alive. You don’t water a seed and dig it up every 5 minutes to check if it’s growing. It is.

You don’t affirm then check it you’re “close.” Close to what? It’s done. It’s yours. Stand on that.

You said it’s yours? Then it’s fucking yours. Done. Period.

Pure Main Character Energy

Getting stronger for yourself is the ultimate aesthetic. It’s not just about the physique; it’s about the mental shift that happens when you decide to level up.

The Main Character Energy of Pet Parenting 🐾🤡

Ever notice how our pets have completely different vibes when they’re caught in the act? Dogs will give you that "side-eye of shame," looking everywhere but at the mess they just made, while cats will stare you down with pure, unblinking audacity as if they’re daring you to say something. It’s a literal battle between the "Awkward Monkey Puppet" and the "Samuel L. Jackson Stare." 🐕🐒 vs 🐈‍⬛🔥 Whether they’re knocking over your favorite plant or stealing a slice of pizza, they really do be living their best, most chaotic lives. We’re just the supporting cast in their world. 🫠✨

The Ultimate Betrayal: 1% Energy vs. 100% Light 💡👹

POV: You just achieved the perfect level of cozy. The blankets are tucked, the pillow is fluffed, and your body has finally entered its final resting state—only for you to realize the ceiling light is still beaming with the power of a thousand suns. ☁️🏹 There is no greater existential crisis than deciding if you’d rather live in the light forever or make the treacherous three-foot journey to the switch. 🏛️🌑

This is the peak 2026 struggle: the internal battle between comfort and convenience. 🦢🕸️ It’s giving "defeat" meets "shrek-core." That specific stare—the one where you’re just processing the sheer audacity of the universe—is a literal mirror to the soul. 🕯️🧤 We’ve all been this specific frame of a fever dream, lying there like a swamp ogre who just wants five minutes of peace. 🏹🏺

So, do you get up, or do you just learn to sleep in the glow of your own regrets? Manifesting a world where lights respond to our thoughts, but until then, we suffer in technicolor. 🥂🚪

swamp core | bedtime betrayal | cozy chaos | existential stare

The Future of Living is Stellar 🌌🚀✨

Forget a room with a view—we’re officially manifesting a penthouse with a planetary orbit. 🪐🛸 This isn't just a home; it's a sanctuary floating in the quiet vastness of the cosmos, where the morning sun is a literal star and the neighbors are a few light-years away. 🔭💎 Imagine sipping your coffee while watching the Earth spin below, living in that perfect intersection of high-tech luxury and infinite peace. 🥂☁️ We’re romanticizing the ultimate escape, where the architecture is as boundless as our dreams and the aesthetic is pure celestial elegance. ☄️🌙 The future looks bright, airy, and incredibly far from the "usual five apps." It's time to trade the scroll for the stars. 🏹🤍🪐