I wonder, how can one truly believe that love exists, when people are so contradictory? Someone comes into your life and says such beautiful things, fills you with love and affection that turns out to be false, and then through their actions they show that none of it is real. We are in the 21st century, a time when many people no longer truly seek a healthy, lasting relationship with someone—they simply want to satisfy their carnal desires and have a “good time” without any commitment.
Many times, in numerous cases, people can even end up getting emotionally attached just because the other person didn’t have enough “emotional responsibility” or honesty about what they really wanted. Sometimes, others, out of indecision, also end up hurting someone who was genuinely opening up to love.
If you only want to have a casual relationship or truly be with someone, things should be discussed from the beginning. But no, many people come in and deceive someone, saying things like, “Yes, we can try to have a relationship,” when in reality they only wanted that person to satisfy their sexual desires.
Be clear about what you want. We are not here to keep tolerating indecisive people who will only end up hurting and using us. Talk about things from the start, and if one party doesn’t agree with what’s discussed, don’t accept it just to “be close” to that person—don’t hurt yourself that way.
If, in all the times I’ve been in these situations, people had been honest with me, without giving me false hope or illusions, telling me their true intentions, I wouldn’t have opened my heart to be hurt. I wouldn’t have believed in the possibility of having a beautiful relationship with someone while opening myself innocently to love them, when that person doesn’t love me back. They always end up giving me sweet words just to have my body.
Always speak the truth. If you want friendship and a sexual relationship, say it. If you only want friendship, be honest about it. Or if what you truly want is a relationship, say it. Perhaps one of the two parties won’t agree, and that decision must be respected.
Always be honest with your intentions. Don’t awaken love in someone if you don’t intend to love them back.
Be conscious and communicate. Have enough maturity and emotional responsibility to avoid hurting others just for a carnal desire.
Do not give false hope of love or acts of affection when you truly don’t feel that for the other person, and simply want something sexual. Don’t confuse someone’s heart with such cruel actions, because that’s how many end up hurt. Be honest with yourself as well, and don’t give love you don’t feel, just to have sex.
