advice for manifesting in a toxic household

sometimes it can be hard to see your circumstances as being completely malleable; such as when you’re surrounded by toxic people and emotionally draining circumstances constantly.

this is something I’ve dealt with a lot in my life, and so I have a lot of experience in manifesting good things for myself while surrounded by the toxicity. I hope I can get you some insight on how to deal with it all to go into calmer waters.

mentally, you aren’t your circumstances

the best thing to do is remind yourself that these situations have no real power over your thoughts. the best way to do this is to initially create a separation, away from them to think and assume comfortably. like going on walks, being anywhere outside of your home or talking to friends. use this time alone to delve into your desired life and assume your desired situation. being away for short periods of time and seeing your outside surroundings will make you realise that there’s more to life than your family. ( even just listening to music, meditation or looking at your pinterest boards can do this ! )

when you’re home keep reminding yourself of that feeling of being free that you felt when you were alone, keep thinking that it’s possible to manifest that peace completely to surround you & your life. now, with this newfound understanding that your life isn’t limited to them. you need to assume and persist through any interaction you have with them. this can be difficult at first, but keep repeating that you are in an amazing, fulfilling environment which feels safe for you. even if reality shows the opposite, keep telling yourself that. when your family does anything uncomfortable to you; mentally picture a real, loving friendship connection and experiencing that instead- or you living in an apartment independently. keep assuming this is the reality.

𓏲 𓂃 ♡ with this, ignore any outside thing showing you the opposite. just know that it’s not true. put no value on it. completely focus on your assumptions.

and what will happen? your outer reality will start to conform to your inner one. from here, accept it. don’t stop persisting here, keep persisting. if you have any fears that reality will go back to the way it was, ignore them and keep telling yourself the new story, putting no value on the external presentation.

ෆ ͜ ̩͙ ︵ ̩͙ ୨ ෆ ୧ ̩͙ ︵ ̩͙ ͜ ෆ

reminder - you are the creator, not your family, not anyone outside of you ⊹ keep persisting, everything will work out ♡

⋆✴︎˚｡⋆ YOU are the answer

Stop looking for something you can do to make it happen. Stop looking for something you’re doing wrong. Stop looking for something you’re doing right. Stop looking for signs.

I cannot stress this enough: it will never be enough. No amount of advice, validation, repetition, or signs will magically make it happen. It comes to pass by recognizing that you’re already it. Stop finding comfort in waiting. As long as you’re waiting, that is exactly what will show up. You want validation? Fulfillment? Recognize you have all of that already.

All these blogs, posts, tiktoks, tweets, all point to the same answer. You are already what you seek. You are the answer you’ve been looking for. You keep missing the answer because you’re so busy looking for something that is outside of you.

you manifest by deciding not thoughts

wtf do I mean? you made a decision to go pee this morning you didn’t think about it

you had a negative thought? okay until you DECIDE that does anything it doesn’t matter

you decided that everytime you wear this shirt you’re lucky? great! you DECIDED that

you don’t feel good today? that’s okay it has no effect whatsoever unless you DECIDE so

for one moment look at your room now instead of thinking you are looking at your environment, imagine it’s facing your direction and looking at you.

once you do that it’s hard to unsee it.

now stop running at reality it’s needs you to tell it what to do.

This happened months ago (March) when I was new with the law and didn’t know a lot of things about it, i just knew the basics = affirm. I was receiving coaching from a big account on twitter from a giveaway i won (I manifested unconsciously, but we’re not talking about that).

I received the guidance and wanted to apply it to manifest a sp, i chose my affirmations and started to repeat them with music in the background, the bad thing comes when i started to repeating them out loud (not necessary) and my mom was near my room so she DID hear me, she opened the door and i was very scared about it, she started to ask me about “why are you saying those things?” And I couldn’t lie to her, i told her that i like a girl (me being a girl too) and she started to tell me that it was wrong, it’s not correct, im a women and i have to like boys, blah blah; she was busy with work so she told me she will talk with me later about it.

I was scared af, it was the first time i accepted i wasn’t straight but i was worried about how my entire family would react, i thought about “i could revise this” but i wasn’t sure if “it will work” (obviously it will but ykwim, also i was new). I started to affirm full of anxiety just to calm myself and don’t overthink about it, i affirmed:

“Everything is fine” -> main aff

“She will accept me”

“She forgot about it”

And to distract myself from my mom, I was affirming while doing a university’s task. I think I affirmed for 1-2 hours NONSTOP literally, I didn’t thought if it will work, I just wanted to feel safe.

When i stopped affirming i fell asleep, after like 3-4 hours i woke up and my mom was in my room but i was sleepy so i didn’t feel any emotion, i just heard her saying “oh, you fell asleep” took my blanket and covered myself with it, and i slept again.

Next day, i was still feeling a little bit worried about it, but i wasn’t thinking against it, just the feeling (feelings don’t manifest 🫶🏻) and i confirmed that she forgot it. Why? Because I know my mom, she would talk to me about it (I know this because of a past event) and actually, she still doesn’t accept the lgbtq+ community (I’ll manifest her acceptance) but yes, I DID IT.