Smut writing 101: What I wish someone had told me when I first started.
So a conversation with @queen-of-boops and @longbobmckenzie sparked this post. Longbob already wrote a list of tips for writing a villa fic which was really helpful and people expanded on it a lot, so we thought it might be helpful to share a few tips for writing smut from some of the writers that do it a lot.
This is a long-ass post, because I've learned a lot over the years. So right at the end, there's a mini how-to guide for how to turn your smut from IKEA instruction manual into an explosion of sexual tension.
In addition, I would love for others to add on to this. This fandom is horrifically talented especially in writing brain-melting smut, and this is just what I could come up with in a few hours. But I'd love to hear from other people and have them add on extra bits!
A few resources before we begin:
The Smut Writer's Dictionary
The Ultimate Guide to Writing Smut Fic [HIGHLY recommend sections ii (Reaction words), iv (sexy alternatives to 'said'), xii (generally acceptable slang terms) and xvi (Some do's and don'ts of smut writing).]
OneLook Thesaurus is much better than other thesauruses at suggesting words for smut (I've found).
Now, on to the advice!
Tip #1 - It's normal to find it difficult and cringe to write. Own it.
Smut can be intimidating. It can feel really cringe and awkward and you might feel like people are judging you for it, and you know what? Sometimes they are. Smut isn't for everyone, and not everyone wants to read it, and that's why ratings and tags exist on Archive of Our Own. But you shouldn't be ashamed of writing it. Smut is fun and awesome and people who do like reading smut often love reading it, and will absolutely eat up whatever you give them. So go nuts. Write what you want to see, write what you want to read. That's advice for everything, but it's especially relevant for writing smut. Because if you feel awkward, it can sometimes show through. Lean into it. Let it happen. If you make yourself blush, youâre doing a fucking awesome job.
Tip #2 - Writerâs block.
I've written hundreds of thousands of words of pure, unadulterated filth, and I still struggle to push into it sometimes. The leadup comes so naturally, the tension builds, they're kissing, they're starting to touch each other, and then-- writer's block. I stare at the page and tap my fingers and go... huh. Same with writing really effectual kisses, or writing orgasms. There's all this pressure to make it the best written orgasm that's ever existed in the English language and it really doesn't need to be. Just put something down.Â
If your doc looks like this:She clawed at the wall, knowing she was coming apart at the seams, the pressure building inside her. He didnât let up. [orgasm bla bla bla]. She took a deep breath. She drew herself off him. She turned around. And she fell to her knees. [blowjob and he's loving it].
Then your doc looks just like mine.
Tip #3 - Pick the right words for everyoneâs bits.Â
See the resource above for suggestions! People have very different preferences when it comes to what to call a cock or whether or not to use the word âcuntâ. Adjectives, adverbsâ there are so many different opinions. Like personally, I have to physically restrain myself from throwing a fic across the room if it uses the word hole but that is my personal preference, and I am massively in the minority there. But my advice is threefold:
Read widely to find out what you like,
Write what you like,
Know your characters.Â
Language will vary by fandom, by character, and by setting, and itâs an opportunity to really solidify their characterisation by carrying this into smut. An arrogant fuckwit whoâs bedding his mortal enemy in a fit of hate-sex might use âinto her slick cuntâ, whereas a sweet, wholesome guy whoâs desperately in love might say âpushed inside herâ. But the more you read, and the more you write, the more youâll find certain words or phrases youâre more comfortable with.Â
The more smut you read, the better understanding youâll have of what you like. The better understanding you have of what you like, the easier it will be to write.Â
Tip #4 - POV can help you
Picking the right POV can make your life easier. For example, I once wrote a M/M/M threesome. That fic ended up being my very first ever 'first person POV' fic. Why? Because it turned one set of âhis handâ into âmy handâ. Made it easier to understand the logistics of âhis hand on his waistâ, etc. Maybe it's lazy, maybe it's genius. I thought it was a bit of both.Â
Consider whose POV is going to be the most impactful. If youâre not sure, try writing a paragraph from each. Youâll figure it out quite quickly.Â
Tip #5 - Dialogue
You donât have to include dialogue in your smut, but it can really help with pacing things and showing when the âendâ is approaching. Anyone whoâs ever read any of my smut ever knows Iâm a huge fan of cutting people off mid sentence in smut dialogue.Â
They start out with âOh yeah? You think you can make me X?â And the other person goes âSweetheart, Iâm going to make you X so hard you donât Y for a Z.âÂ
But then by the end itâs âYou feelââ and everyoneâs gasping âOh, fuckââ and sobbing out âIâm soâ Iâm gonnaââÂ
To me, this helps to build pacing and tension and show without telling that the end is approaching. But honestly, thatâs just meâ I enjoy reading people being very vocal in smut, so thatâs how I write them. If thatâs not your thing, then donât do it. Simple as that.Â
Tip #6 - Donât skimp on the finale
Orgasms are hard to write. We all know that. Thereâs all this pressure to write the best most explosive monumental earth-shattering orgasm thatâs ever existed in fiction, and honestly, it probably wonât be. But you still need to give it the time it deserves.Â
As an avid consumer of smut, there is nothing more frustrating than five pages of buildup, incredible smut, tension rising, rising, risingâ and then the orgasm happens in two lines and theyâre immediately having a conversation afterwards. This is, no pun intended, the climax of your scene. Give it a paragraph. Hell, give it two paragraphs. Give it four. The climax is something you can write in excruciating detail and it will almost always be better for it. You can decide whether they come at the same time, or whether one comes immediately after the other (personal fav so we get to read two orgasms. Yay! Two cakes!) You can hyper-focus on every single sense. Here are some examples for writing orgasms:
Feel/Touch
The feeling travelling through the characterâs body/ zones: up their spine, through their thighs, âdeep inside themâ
Their partner continuing to thrust/move
Their partnerâs grip on their body, or maybe a kiss
Fingernails digging into shoulder or raking down a back
Legs squeezing
Smell
Personally I think this works better for the leadup and afterwards, but if you want this in here you absolutely can. Pheremones, cologne, aftershave, perfume, sweat, hair gelâ whatever makes them smell like them.Â
Sight
Their partnerâs face and get detailed! Lips parting, brow scrunched, eyes closed, face in beautiful agony, wax poetic as fuck about their partner's face! What is hotter than making someone come and watching their face while you do it!??!!?
Darkness (blindfolded đ)
âWhite light behind their eyesâ is a cliche for a reason (fucking love this one)
Seeing stars/heaven see above lol
Taste
Harder to put into an orgasm but salty skin, lipgloss/lipstick? Whatever you want really
Sound
Big one. Their partnerâs breath or moan as they watch/feel characterâs peak
Their own breath/moans (or lack thereof can be just as effective, a âsudden silenceâ as their breath catches in their throat can work WONDERS)
Bodies slapping together (doesnât always work but when it does it does)
External sounds, especially rhythmic ones. A train clacking or a club baseline could simulate a heartbeat/shockwaves that you could lean into.
Pick multiple senses and focus on them. This will fill up a good bit of your climax writing.Â
But you should also let them come down from it! DONâT SKIMP AFTERCARE (or after-hate??)
Tip #7 - Aftercare!
I missed this so often when I was new to writing smut and I didnât realise how effective it could be! I always just faded to black immediately afterwards because I didnât want to deal with the âcleanupâ. And you donât have to go into detail, but at the very least, give them a few minutesâ a paragraph or so after the sex. The immediate aftermath of the act itself when you can really focus on the relationship.Â
If theyâre mortal enemies whoâve just fucked and are now horrified? Have them panting into each othersâ skin. Their breaths suddenly become sharper and more reserved. They pull back from each other. Someone glares or someone says something snarky or awful. Someone showing aftercare or affection here (or being particularly cruel) reveals a lot about their character.
If theyâre deeply in love and itâs comfortable for them to do so, maybe let them just lay there for a second, enjoying the feeling of each othersâ bodies and letting breaths fall warmly and smiles tug at cheeks. Soft kisses, laying in silence, affection, etc.Â
If theyâre best mates who just fucked by accident, have the silence be awkward and have no one breathe at all. Itâs tense and awkward and one has to ask the other to go get a towel or something and the other is like âoh, yeah, um, rightâ.Â
Donât skip this! It can be so impactful!
Overall Tip - Beware the âIKEA Instruction manualâ!
The #1 most common mistake, in my opinion, in writing smut is âInsert Tab A into Slot Bâ. Itâs things like,Â
He moved his leg A, she touched B. He lifted her arm to C, holding her Dâs, before slipping down to cup E. She ran her hands up F, touching his G, feeling his Hs caressing her I as she lifted her J and draped it over his K.
When I read this, Iâm not focusing on the smut. Iâm doing mental gymnastics trying to keep track of what position theyâre in in my head because Iâm assuming that itâs important. If you feel yourself doing this, stop. Refocus. Remember whose POV youâre in. This isnât to say you should never tell the reader whatâs happening. Just make sure to break it up a little!
Balance actions with senses.Â
Letâs say you start with a basic action. (The example is buildup to smut, not actual smut, but the idea is the same)
âHis hand moved from her knee to her thigh.â
-> Instead of writing what theyâre doing, write what they can sense.
âHis hand moved from her knee to her thighâ becomes âShe felt his warm hand slide from her knee to her thigh.â
-> Now, make the phrase active. Instead of âshe feltâ, make it a description.
âShe felt his warm hand slide from her knee to her thighâ becomes âWarmth erupted on her skin as his hand slid from her knee to her thighâ.
-> Give it details, and draw focus to them.
His fingertips skimmed her inner thigh as his hand slipped from her knee and moved higher. The silk of her skirt gave way to the warmth of a coarse, rough palm. Her skin seared beneath it. But every other inch of her shivered with anticipation.
In three steps, youâve gone from IKEA tab A to slot B to a pretty good section for building tension.Â
Examples of writing senses:
What can they feel? - âSheâd never been so pent up, so wired, so on edge, and every flit of his practiced fingers on her waist had goosebumps shooting up her spineâ.
What can they taste? - âShe could taste the sweat on his skin, the coconut suncream on his shoulders, the salt of the ocean on the hints of stubble at his jawline.â
What can they smell? - âHer forehead pressed to his, that smokey, heady cologne engulfing her; curling her closer in time with his arms around her.â
What can they hear? - âHe watched her every move, breathing quickly, so she looked him directly in the eyes as she undid his belt. Belt. Button. Zip purring as she tugged it down towards her.â
What can they see? - âThen, they opened, and he was treated to the sight of her looking up at him from her knees. Her eyes said fuck me. Her mouth said fuck me. Everything about her. Fuck me. Fuck me.â
I hope this was helpful in some way. I really would love to hear any other tips and tricks that writers would like to add to this. Obviously queenofboops and longbob are already tagged, but this is a fully open free-for-all.
Add your thoughts! Add what you've learned! Add what you wish you knew!
I'd love to hear it <3









