Just be a femboy bruh not that hard
at first i was just going to ignore this because it's a blatantly invalidating statement, but i figured i could respond in hopes that i can enlighten someone on the subject. i was a femboy. that's where it starts for a lot of us trans girls - just being a feminine guy - and i really connected with the concept because i never really felt wrong living as a guy. my whole life i was never in touch with masculinity as a concept, but was perfectly fine with who i was as a guy as i started to express myself intentionally more fem. however, as time went on i learned a lot of things about myself. i learned that, even if i didn't mind being a guy, i managed to find some excitement in the times where i was referred to as a girl, whether it was unintentionally (wearing a mask during covid made me come across as a girl a lot) or even as a joke (i was dubbed the "mom" friend of my group as a guy). despite the lack of gender dysphoria i felt, i managed to experience gender euphoria instead, and as terrifying as it was to think i could be trans, i didn't want to suppress how i felt and decided to explore it more. it's been only about a year now since i've been able to fully say that i am trans. before that, it was years of questioning, thoughts lingering and not being sure what anything means. by all means, i was hesitant to call myself a girl. i wanted anything but to be trans. it genuinely feels like a horrible to say, but if it truly were a choice, then i would go back to being cis and make my life a million times less scary and difficult than it is. but one thing i cannot do is be dishonest with myself. ever since i worked up to courage to accept the label and dive into new waters, things have continued to change. and they will for as long as i live, because change is just human nature. i've slowly but surely dropped the remaining male/masculine parts of my identity, and have even had the misfortune of developing dysphoria about certain parts of myself along the way (believe it or not, the dreams from my comic have played quite a big part in that). but it's come with a sense of certainty, finally feeling confident in knowing who i am and what i want to be. all the years spent awkwardly living as a guy have turned into moments where i can be confident as a girl. there are things about myself i've always felt gross about, despite them being natural parts of who i was as a guy, and it's only now i'm realizing that a lot of them have to do with just. being a guy. so while i can't choose who i am inherently, i am making the choice to embrace it. there are plenty of femboys out there who have confidence in their identity as a boy, and i have nothing but respect for them. there are also plenty of femboys out there who will come to find that maybe there's more to the feeling than just the clothes, hair, or smooth skin. everyone has their own journey and i'm only here to tell you about mine. but regardless of how much easier it was to be cis, i've grown and learned that i'm not. i hope this helps you understand <3
