#learningtosocialize

Usually when I get to yapping one of the first things that come from people's mouth is that I'm spoiled and/or bougie.

This could be their way of joking or a serious statement, but I accept it either way. people Had told me before that is an insult and if I get it often I should check how I move through the world.

Listen...I am very aware of my life style and privilege. I like nicer things and I am ok with that and want to keep living that way because it makes me happy. Is a luxury lifestyle and wealth the only thing on my mind, no. There are so many other things that I value, but if you label me as spoiled, high maintenance, or bougie without trying to understand my thinking process or you just do it with ill intent than that's says more about you than me.

Now, this isn't to say that I dismiss all criticism. If you say that I am being a b*tch than I will reflect/ask other people who are not in relations to each other and if I get the same answer than I'll check my behavior.

I cannot control the thoughts of those around me nor control all the interactions I have daily. For that reason, I am very slow to explain my reasoning to anyone who isn't important to me. With some people you can't win and that's ok - welcome to the real world. Honestly, you really do not want to be around those types of people any way.

I believe I have some common since but I have many flaws so I can't say I'm good at it yet.

Women - I only distance when I can tell or is mad obvious that you like what i dislike and I like the things you dislike. Nothing wrong with it - I would love to spend time together but if we are too different we can just be occasional friends and i would love that. The times I would hate a girl or openly distance myself from them is when she would go out of her way to dis me or have no consideration. I never had too bad of an experience with a women so I am not so eager to filter.

Men - I think this is where things start to fall off a bit - It gets real strict around here. Listen.. I'm straight and so I take every man that is around my age as a... potential romantic partner (?) so within a day or two of meeting them I put them in a category: strictly friend, potentially date or dating, never see me again. how he acts towards me and his environment would tell me enough. I'm young, yes, so I haven't work this system on everybody, but after at MOST a week i know what I am dealing with.