#kmgn

No because even if you ignore the context of the colonising imperialist who coined that phrase, huh?

Do you think for 30,000 years, half of the human species was doing nothing but spreading her legs for a grapefruit? You don’t think we were doing anything before that?

You can only comprehend female history, even as far back as the ancient world, in the context of us getting raped in exchange for goods? That’s it?

The hunters? The labourers? The farmers? The gatherers? The scouts? The child rearers? The healers? The builders?

She told her story as truthfully as she could: of the victim that people don’t want to acknowledge.

You can’t acknowledge that grooming and rape is bad and then reject those who are affected and possessed by them. Grooming is supposed to make the victim quiet about their abuse, even enjoy, “consent” and “collude” with it. Sometimes grooming works. Sometimes rape by a family member will make someone crazy.

As she said, the ideal father-daughter incest victim fights and runs away and screams from the hilltops about what happened. But she was silenced by her father, her family, her friends.

She was threatened with murder if she fought or ran away. Of course someone threatened from infancy, a child, a baby, would not be able to run.

A person frozen by their thinking — thinking formed by incest and violence — not be able to fight back. Both physically and mentally. Would internalise and try to enjoy the endless abuse (abuse that would not end even if she didn’t try to find some pleasure in it) as a survival mechanism.

I hated going to the reviews and seeing people dismiss her experience as pornographic fanfiction. I also hated people speculating on her identity.

The final parts she wrote about her current marriage made her terribly sad, but I was unsurprised. It’s common for victims to be revictimised. She mentioned how it felt like rapists and abusers could “smell” the trauma on her. To extent she’s right. The people of the worst kind will intentionally seek out the vulnerable and traumatised who they know will not fight back as that’s their method of survival. It breaks my heart. I hope she finds peace wherever and whoever she is. Her father and family made it so she never stood a chance.

“[Just] because no penis is involved does not make it “less than” male/female incest.”

I hope to spread more and more facts about the reality of sibling and cousin incest on behalf of the survivors of it, and also to those who victims did not survive and can no longer speak about the injustice committed against them.

Sidenote: I am very aware all incest is dismissed and subject to apologism. I am a same sex, female perpetrated, maternal incest victim, after all. Although I more commonly notice sibling/cousin incest used in myopic arguments for consanguinity … This is due to the possibility of small or minuscule age gaps between siblings and cousins… arguments that completely dismiss family hierarchy, misogyny, and dynamics between older and younger children.

“I had to chant to fall asleep to keep my mind off the “black hole” which represented the incest before I remembered it.”