Consent Is Sexy… Until It Isn't: A Practical Guide to CYA, Consent Issues, and Self-Protection in BDSM Play by Stings Custom Consent is the cornerstone of kink, but what occurs when it is misinterpreted, withdrawn, or altered after the fact? This book isn't just another introduction to BDSM or a list of negotiation tips. It's your CYA survival manual: an honest, fearless exploration of what can go wrong even when you follow all the "rules." From dungeon floors to private sessions, and community events to spontaneous encounters, this guide delves into the complicated, emotional, and legally precarious aspects of consent that are often overlooked. Authored by experienced kink educator Stings Custom, this book examines real-life scenarios where consent was initially granted but later led to confusion, regret, or accusations. You'll discover how to protect yourself—not only for your safety but also for your reputation, your partners, and the trust of your community. Inside, you'll find: ✅ Detailed analyses of actual incidents from dungeon play and events ✅ Step-by-step CYA negotiation techniques for both Tops and bottoms ✅ Printable templates for scene negotiation and debriefing ✅ Scripts for essential conversations (negotiation, check-ins, redirection, and addressing issues) ✅ Guidance on handling consent accusations with composure, clarity, and credibility ✅ Expectations for events, DMs, and organizers—and what you can demand ✅ A comprehensive glossary of consent-related terms, red flags, and kink-specific vocabulary ✅ FAQs addressing common but often unasked questions ✅ Strategies for teaching, modeling, and leading in consent culture—without fear or shame Whether you're a Dominant honing your ethical practices, a submissive learning to advocate for yourself, or an organizer building a safer community, this book equips you with the means to protect your boundaries and uphold your integrity. This isn't a light read. It's not a fantasy. It's a precise, practical, and emotionally insightful tool in your kink toolkit. Because consent is sexy... until it isn't. And how you respond is crucial.

Consent: The Devil’s in the Details A BDSM Workbook for Negotiation, Safewords, Scene Planning, and Aftercare Consent isn’t a buzzword. It’s the foundation of everything we do in kink. Whether you're a Dominant, submissive, switch, or simply exploring the world of BDSM for the first time, this book offers a clear, practical path to intentional, ethical, and erotic play. Consent: The Devil’s in the Details is a powerful workbook designed to help partners negotiate scenes, define limits, use safewords effectively, and communicate with confidence. Inside this guide, you'll find tools to build trust, navigate risk, and deepen intimacy through shared power. You’ll also discover how to recognize poor negotiation, avoid common consent failures, and support emotional safety before, during, and after a scene. What’s Inside: A customizable Consent Checklist covering BDSM activities and boundaries Guided space to record roles, safewords, and mutual agreements Detailed breakdown of scene negotiation techniques Real-world examples of good consent—and dangerous misunderstandings Dedicated chapters on aftercare, drop, and emotional support Non-verbal safeword tools and communication for gagged or restrained scenes Prompts for hard limits, soft limits, special requests, and evolving needs Two full pages for detailed notes, scene journaling, or additional protocol A closing reminder to revisit, revise, and renew your consent conversations This book is not just for beginners. It’s for experienced players, lifestyle couples, and anyone committed to power exchange with integrity. Whether you use it privately, in your dynamic, or as a tool in workshops or mentoring, it will become a trusted part of your kink ritual. Because good kink doesn’t start with rope. It starts with words. And true Dominance begins with permission. Who This Book Is For: New and seasoned Dominants building communication skills Submissives seeking safer, more confident ways to express limits Couples renegotiating their dynamic Kink educators, therapists, or D/s mentors Curious partners exploring power play for the first time Anyone who understands that erotic risk demands real responsibility Perfect for those who practice SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual), RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink), CNC (Consensual Non-Consent), or TPE (Total Power Exchange). If you're building a scene, building a protocol, or just building trust—this book belongs beside your rope, your rules, and your rituals. Your kink is yours. But your consent is your foundation. Let this workbook help you protect it—and elevate it—with every scene you create.

Consent: The Devil’s in the Details A BDSM Workbook for Negotiation, Safewords, Scene Planning, and Aftercare Consent isn’t a buzzword. It’s the foundation of everything we do in kink. Whether you're a Dominant, submissive, switch, or simply exploring the world of BDSM for the first time, this book offers a clear, practical path to intentional, ethical, and erotic play. Consent: The Devil’s in the Details is a powerful workbook designed to help partners negotiate scenes, define limits, use safewords effectively, and communicate with confidence. Inside this guide, you'll find tools to build trust, navigate risk, and deepen intimacy through shared power. You’ll also discover how to recognize poor negotiation, avoid common consent failures, and support emotional safety before, during, and after a scene. What’s Inside: A customizable Consent Checklist covering BDSM activities and boundaries Guided space to record roles, safewords, and mutual agreements Detailed breakdown of scene negotiation techniques Real-world examples of good consent—and dangerous misunderstandings Dedicated chapters on aftercare, drop, and emotional support Non-verbal safeword tools and communication for gagged or restrained scenes Prompts for hard limits, soft limits, special requests, and evolving needs Two full pages for detailed notes, scene journaling, or additional protocol A closing reminder to revisit, revise, and renew your consent conversations This book is not just for beginners. It’s for experienced players, lifestyle couples, and anyone committed to power exchange with integrity. Whether you use it privately, in your dynamic, or as a tool in workshops or mentoring, it will become a trusted part of your kink ritual. Because good kink doesn’t start with rope. It starts with words. And true Dominance begins with permission. Who This Book Is For: New and seasoned Dominants building communication skills Submissives seeking safer, more confident ways to express limits Couples renegotiating their dynamic Kink educators, therapists, or D/s mentors Curious partners exploring power play for the first time Anyone who understands that erotic risk demands real responsibility Perfect for those who practice SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual), RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink), CNC (Consensual Non-Consent), or TPE (Total Power Exchange). If you're building a scene, building a protocol, or just building trust—this book belongs beside your rope, your rules, and your rituals. Your kink is yours. But your consent is your foundation. Let this workbook help you protect it—and elevate it—with every scene you create.