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#christmasclapback For years some of my in-laws campaigned for lineage and questioned me about when we were going to start a family, despite our repeated joint explanations that we weren’t ready yet (for numerous, clearly defined reasons). So, if this is resonating with you now, and you’re dreading a similar inquisition imminently, here is the Christmas clap-back I wish I’d thought of all those years ago. “Thank you for your concern about my readiness to continue your family line, but that’s really a decision for me to make about my own uterus, and I’d appreciate you staying out of it and keeping your opinions to yourself.” Don’t be pressured, because these people may want you to pop out kids to suit their own agenda, but it doesn’t guarantee they’ll love and care for them once they’re born. Check out the horrors my long awaited children endured in Too Relieved To Grieve | The Alternative Heartbreak Handbook: https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) Your uterus, your choice, your readiness. The end. #christmas #clapback #youruterus #yourchoice #theend #familypressure #familyexpectations #expectations #startingafamily #havingbabies #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #memoir #truestory #authorlife #authorsofinstagram #authors #writer #writersofinstagram #writersmemoir https://www.instagram.com/p/CmjBSx3AOu8/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

So Christmas is well and truly upon us, and if you’re surrounded by difficult people this may help: I’ve had unpleasant outlaws… I mean in-laws… to wrangle myself and wish I’d used this then, but hey, “Do the best you can and then when you know better, do better” ~ Maya Angelou. Anyhoo… In the heat of the moment(s), take a deep breath, mindfully slow your brainwaves (from Gamma/Beta to Alpha for those who know) and deliberately exercise patience and ‘practice the pause’. As close as you *think* you may be to someone, trust me, you don't know everything about them. You may have been around them for a while, but you haven't been through everything they've experienced in life. Everyone is unique with personalised perceptions and responses. So, focus on appreciating your relationships because they’re finite, and remember that words can destroy relationships. Sure, people may forgive, but they may not forget, so “PEACE” is the word! Here’s to your love, laughter and joy. Merry Christmas to all who celebrate and love to all. Karan 💕 #peaceistheword #peace #peaceofmind #peaceandlove #christmas #christmas2022 #joy #loveandlight #howtosurvivechristmas #mayaangelou #mayaangelouquotes #karanscott #karanscottcoaching #karanscottauthor #karanscottnlpperformancecoach #karanscottcognitivebehaviouraltherapist #mindsetcoach #mindsetcoaching #lifecoaching #lifecoach #karanscottnlppractitioner #karanscottcourses https://www.instagram.com/p/Cmi5_sfD0LM/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

Seemingly, my body is not designed for pregnancy and structurally it would appear that I’m held together with Pritt Stick glue. My joints are hyper mobile which resulted in SPD (Symphysis Pubis Disfunction) - an incredibly painful condition ‘down there’ due to the weight and positioning of the baby. This meant from months 4-9 of my pregnancies I was in excruciating agony almost all of the time, including at night, so I barely slept. Then there was labour and the joys of natural childbirth, plus an optional extra of a migraine on top. Yay, go me! Thankfully, the only perk of SPD (for me at least) was hastened 7 hour births, and then all I wanted was to sleep. I had months of painful sleeplessness and exhaustion to recover from, but do you suppose Steve let me sleep? Did he hell… because *he* was tired too. He even held my hand during my daughter’s birth and told me earnestly and emotionally “I’m really going to look after you Karan” - which didn’t ever materialise - as he insisted we took it in shifts (one night on, one night off) to get up and look after the baby; he needed his sleep too you understand. It was cruel and unusual to be sure and felt tortuous at the time, as I was never allowed to fully recover or restore. After a couple of weeks, he went back to work and I was expected to start from where I’d left off, supporting him in his business, like nothing had happened. Whilst the world often stopped for man-flu, I couldn’t dare be ill, or have any time off after e.g.: miscarriages, treatment/surgery or following the death of my dad and more recently my mum. In fact, he left me for Helen three weeks after mum died, and two days after her funeral. So you see why I’m Too Relieved To Grieve now the trash took itself out? Because a catch he ain’t! Oh sure, he’s other c-words I can think of, but none of them are “catch”. Read how this how saga started, progressed and ended in my long awaited memoir Too Relieved To Grieve | The Alternative Heartbreak Handbook, available from Amazon and on Kindle now: https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) #toorelievedtogrieve #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscottauthor #karanscott #karanscottcoaching #memoir https://www.instagram.com/p/Cn9sCnQNxot/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

If you’ve already read #toorelievedtogrieve, you will know how I’ve been guided to make the most phenomenally positive life changing decisions, whilst also being strongly discouraged from taking what could have been truly catastrophic actions. But this isn’t because I’m in any way special or gifted, oh no. In fact, Ordinary could be my middle name, but it isn’t, it’s Sara. You see, any guidance available to me is equally available to you, it’s your birth right, but do you ever slow down enough to hear it? Would you like to learn more? If this is something you’d like to discuss further with me, please feel free to reach out to via [email protected] and we’ll take it from there. I’ll look forward to hearing from you. Karan x KaranScott.com | Life Changing Life Coaching #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #memoir #truestory #reallifeevents #life #lifecoaching #lifecoach #divorcecoach #breakupcoach #breakupcoaching #heartbreak #divorce #newbookalert #whatshallireadnext #whattoreadnext #selfhelpbooks #selfhelp #selfhelpbook #karanscottnlpperformancecoach #karanscottcognitivebehaviouraltherapist #karanscott https://www.instagram.com/p/CjaVwR4tr0y/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

“A memoir is about handing over your life to someone and saying this is what I went through, this is who I am, and maybe you can learn from it” — Jeannette Walls If you’ve had your heart and mind smashed and shattered by the callous misdeeds of those you’ve loved, #toorelievedtogrieve was written especially to to give you a road map through Hell. Available now in paperback and Kindle: https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) #memoir #memoirwriter #memoirwriting #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #truestory #reallifeevents #divorcecoach #breakupcoach #divorcerecovery #coach #karanscottcoaching #heretohelpyou #heretohelp #authorsofinstagram #author #authorlife #authorcommunity #authorgram https://www.instagram.com/p/CjNxoXct-Uw/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

And he did. And she lived happily ever after. No loss and too relieved to grieve. Sometimes you just have to let the trash take itself out 🤷🏻‍♀️ #toorelievedtogrieve #authorlife #memoir #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscottauthor #karanscottcoaching #karanscott #selfhelpbookforthebrokenhearted #selfhelp #selfhelpbooks #cbtcoach #nlpcoach #truestory #reallifeevents #befreebehappy #neverlookedback #letthetrashtakeitselfout https://www.instagram.com/p/CgggiFRA7lU/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

I was asked today how I decided upon my book title, if it was an easy decision, and how many alternative had I come up with. This wasn’t on the list, but it could easily entitle the sequel! 🤣 #booktitle #booktitles #nameyourbook #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #memoir #funnybooktitles #mademelaugh #authorlife #authorsofinstagram #lol #authorcommunity #instawriters https://www.instagram.com/p/Ca2yZaTuanU/?utm_medium=tumblr

Indeed #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #selfhelpbook #breakupcoaching #breakup #divorcecoaching #divorce https://www.instagram.com/p/CW4-oXbomJC/?utm_medium=tumblr