#kaitlyn

oc commission by @hehearse !!!! rambling abt my women under the cut

quick disclaimer though: it looks like her bykaitjune twitter might’ve been wiped from the web archive (maybe she requested removal?), so that one’s basically gone. tragic, honestly. BUT there is another account that’s still accessible.

https://web.archive.org/web/*/twitter.com/kaitcheung*

and that one has… about 4,000 tweets.

so yeah. i read some of them. i dont have time for 4k tweets. 

anyway, people keep repeating a bunch of claims about her like they’re established facts, so here’s what i actually found:

“emotionally dependent”this one is… kinda accurate. if i’m remembering right, she literally described herself that way in some reddit posts/comments. so that’s not really people projecting — it’s something she openly acknowledged.

“depended on her parents”not really in the way people imply. she moved between cities several times on her own. there were stretches where she stayed with her parents after layoffs or during life transitions, but that’s honestly pretty normal.

“obsessed with men”okay, yes — her more recent twitter (the one people always reference) definitely had a lot of posts about dating and men. but she also talked constantly about wanting to settle down and find a life partner. if your main life goal is building a long-term relationship, it’s not exactly shocking that your tweets reflect that.

“anti-feminist”i actually didn’t see evidence of this. if anything, she came across as more progressive than people tend to assume.

“didn’t care about her friends”this one’s more complicated. some of her earlier tweets were honestly pretty harsh toward friends — like, surprisingly mean. the impression i got was that she sometimes didn’t fully grasp how hurtful her words could be. she’d say things very bluntly without seeming to realize the impact. (i do think that comment about jocks can be read like a shade)

but after she was hospitalized for bipolar disorder, there was a period where she really seemed to be trying to improve. she sounded more reflective and like she genuinely wanted to grow as a person.

then she moved to hawaii.

and somehow a lot of the more self-destructive or dependent patterns seemed to resurface.

anyway, after going through some of them, this is the theory i ended up with:

she really wanted a life partner.

she tweeted a lot about wanting kids, raising a family, breaking cycles from her own upbringing, and building a stable life with someone. it seemed like she had a pretty clear vision of the future she wanted.

and she kept trying to get there.

so by the time she met luigi, i think she was probably very ready — maybe even desperate — for it to finally work. and when she met someone who seemed genuinely husband-material, it probably felt like hitting the jackpot.

especially since they were traveling around hawaii together. that’s basically relationship honeymoon-phase speedrun mode.

so from her perspective it might have felt like: finally. this is it.

and then he left. and ghosted her.

which is why i think she held onto him so tightly afterward. with previous exes, her breakups sounded relatively amicable or she accepted their end — probably because she already knew those relationships weren’t “forever.” but with luigi, she seemed to genuinely believe he was.

so losing him wasn’t just losing the relationship. it was losing the entire future she thought she was about to have.

that would explain why the grief seems so intense — it’s not just about the person, it’s about the life she imagined.

did he love her?

i actually think he probably did.

during the period where she was working on herself, she seemed genuinely interesting — funny, curious, into learning, lots of hobbies and interests. she came across as someone pleasant to be around. it’s not hard to see why someone like luigi might have fallen for that version of her.

let’s not forget he left for surgery in May 2023 and didn’t come back until November 2023. And they’d only been friends since fall 2022—like, that’s really not that long to know someone on a super deep level, and definitely not long enough to realistically be at “best friends” level. so he probably didn’t know her that well—but that side of her, the one that was trying to improve and get better? I can see how Luigi would’ve fallen for that version of her.

but she also had moments where she’d post surprisingly hurtful things about friends and people online, in ways that made it seem like she didn’t even realize how harsh it sounded. i suspect he may have been experiencing one of those moments when she said something extremely hurtful that completely caught him off guard.

and in relationships, i suspect she could be… a lot.

That intense desire to pin down “the one” probably translated into emotional neediness and clinginess; the independence she seemed to have earlier in the year may have completely faded by the time she was with Luigi, after multiple failed relationships.

my guess is that luigi fell for that pleasant side of hers but eventually found her overwhelming. maybe he wasn’t expecting that level of intensity, and suddenly the emotional weight of the relationship was much heavier and faster than he anticipated.

so if i had to speculate, the breakup probably came more from his side because he couldn’t handle how intense she became.

and the sad part is that there really was a period after her hospitalization where she seemed to be doing well. she looked like she was genuinely trying to grow and change.

but something about the move to hawaii seemed to trigger a huge regression.

i remember seeing tweets from her bykaitjune account years ago and thinking she came across as pretty insufferable back then — mean toward friends, weirdly competitive with other women, and very fixated on men.

but in the year before her move to hawaii, she actually seemed different. calmer. more self-aware.

and that version of her?

yeah. i can see why luigi might have fallen for that person.

in a strange way it feels like both of them ended up becoming shadows of who they used to be.

like something about hawaii completely derailed both of their paths.

also she invested in nft i wonder how that went 

Thank you so much for that deep dive into Kaitlyn's social media and the possible relationship dynamics between the two.

You've put together this so well that I'll steal adopt this view 😭

I genuinely feel bad for her. She was going through a lot and all that she wanted was to build a stable marriage, home and have children. I have a feeling Luigi wanted the same. Had they met at different stages of life, it might have worked out for them.