i DESPERATELY need "system safe" servers to STOP trying to police system alters and their recovery.
if a system has an introject with a 'problematic' source, it is NOT your place to ensure that alter is fully source separated. that is THAT SYSTEM'S BUSINESS. you can ask them to just not talk about their source, but it is NOT your place to force them to source separate. YOU ARE NOT THEIR DOCTOR. YOU ARE NOT THEM. IT IS NOT YOUR BUSINESS.
Source Separation is a form of recovery that TAKES TIME. It looks different for everyone. Hell, in my system, it's different between every introject! a little under half of my system is made up of introjects, some of us are "fully"* source separated, others aren't at all, and others are somewhere in the middle. Some of these introjects, on all ends of the spectrum, are sourced from problematic characters or problematic shows. where they land on the progress bar to source separation should not be the concern of a random discord mod that claims their server is a "safe space for systems" if they don't view introjects as their source. Forcing source separation when an introject isn't ready can be HARMFUL to not only the introject but the system AS A WHOLE.
*"fully", in quotes, because there isn't really a way for any of us to be totally source separated, as we are not in therapy at the moment. only One of us really gets close to that.
