#internalized transphobia

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I see this most in conversations about trans man lesbians. While I’m supportive of trans man lesbians who are lesbian bc of non-binary/gender weird reasons. There is a non-zero amount of trans men who call themselves lesbians not for gender reasons but instead because they define their sexuality by sex assignment. Defining lesbianism not as queer attraction to women, but instead as a label for people who were (c)afab being attracted to people who were (c)afab. They see themselves not as men, but instead just as ‘females’ and they believe in the sex binary. I think these people have internalized transphobia and are misgendering themselves, and would benefit greatly from doing introspection on how they define their gender and sexuality.

This is also the same for nonbinary people putting their (c)asab in their bio, those trans women who call themselves ‘male’/‘male women’, those trans guys who call themselves ‘female/female men’, some trans women who call themselves gay/gay men, etc. etc. instead of defining themselves by who they are now, they are defining themselves by their assigned sex.

For one, many of us are talking about "real" experiences in "real life." If you were actually listening instead of just waiting your turn to open your mouth, you'd have noticed that simple fact. Use your context clues.

i think mike would figure himself out rather quickly in terms of gender around 13-14 but by no means do i think he'd be anything but turbulent

he'd totally subscribe to toxic masculinity esp with his relationship with jane. he'd drain himself of all his energy keeping up with this idea of 'the perfect boyfriend' and just be spurred on by following in lucas and dustin's footsteps with their girlfriends as well. and he'd always feel this need to 'keep up' with the other boys because he think there's something he needs to prove

he'd also be really restrictive in things he'd allow himself to do and say. especially when it comes to his feelings for will. because will's a boy. mike knows and sees him as a boy and mike can't have feelings for him because thats something that girls do.

which of course i think is another angsty plot line because i think of trans will constantly battling with the feeling of 'if i could just make myself okay with being a girl then he'd like me' even though being a girl makes him uncomfortable

AND thinking of the s3 rain fight breaks my heart because mike would be projecting his same feelings about what the rules a boy. a man. is supposed to adhere to and how neither of them can follow it as he shouts "it's not my fault you don't like girls!"