#infp stuff

Yes, you can find INFP who is an actual workaholic and overachiever in something but who also doesn’t even care much about but still identifies with. This comes from having Te that is insecure, triggered by something, having it threatened. This can happen in childhood, having self worth somehow lessened and now feeling the need to be respected, well educated, best at something. INFP will want to have everything under his control and will be very stressed when he cannot fix things even independent on him, because after all, that Te thing is linked to Fi identity and values. I am describing here an unhealthy INFP of course, so don’t think please that it some general theory about this type. 

So, is it bad to achieve things? Absolutely not! It is an aspiration of a healthy INFP to achieve something huge and important in life, to contribute to something good, to help others with their vision and knowledge, give them love and light. But this is exactly the point. INFP has to achieve and overachieve maybe (!) having in mind intention coming from Fi, and not from fear of being inferior at work and thus inferior in general, (Te linked with Fi, which is INFP first, most important function).

Healthy way for INFP is to go with functions as the order goes, Fi, Ne, Si and then build up a healthy Te goal and achieve it based on what Ne concepts / new things that Fi valued were experienced / learnt in past with gathered knowledge Si. Te is inspirational and healthy when it comes from heart, experience and gathered knowledge. It becomes unhealthy when INFP skips the Ne, Si and goes to Te hoping to make Fi happy with himself and feel better.

Every time when INFP chooses a new career, he has of course a goal, desire to be good at it, and it is right, let’s call it subgoal, this shouldn’t be linked though, my dear INFP, to your identity, Fi. Remember, this is just a process when you learn. You go for new Ne, you learn new things and gather experience Si. This is awesome! These are pieces that will help you identify your bigger goal, Te, that you want to achieve, rules that you will set for world, vision that you will design and will be implemented. You have to learn before how world operates, so don’t get discouraged and don’t feel bad when first Te subgoals are not perfectly achieved. These are just subgoals and are meant to gain experience and learn about the objective world. Remember, learn how the world REALLY is, learn Te, this you can do with your subgoals. 

I really wouldn’t like you to stick to illusions and reject Te. We are scared of Te, we don’t like it, but this is the key to success. Small subgoals Te first, they teach how world looks like, we move to another Ne and learn more Si, we start to make sense of how world really is Te and can create a real goal for us, what is achievable and important for us.