#important enough

Like, you don't have to participate in this conversation. You didn't have to respond to my post. You can make your own post about what you consider to be important in the world.

Crazily enough I'm able to multitask. If I want to make a post about how white men aren't shit and don't deserve any praise for not even doing the bare minimum, I'm going to.

If I want to ask questions about how I don't understand black women writing fics about white men being abusive towards them, when they do that shit enough in real life, I'm going to.

You don't have to respond, but what the fuck you're not about to do is tell me that what I'm talking about isn't important.

It was important enough to get you in your feelings. It was important enough for someone to tell me to kill myself. It was important enough for hundreds of other people to resonate with what I said.

I can be focused on what's going on in the world and I can be focused on what's happening here too. The same way there are black women on this app who will protest for our rights in these streets and then come home, open up google docs, and write about Steve Rogers raping them because it's "sexy".

The main point of both of those conversations, was to have real conversations. It was never about "blaming black women" for where the fandom is at right now. Cause we can't blame black women, we can just criticize some of the actions we have all taken and perpetrated.

The whole point of the post was to comment on how this culture of praise was innocent at first, but it's starting to become uncomfortable to see or be a part of. And there really needs to be some accountability taken and some consideration in how these "harmless" statements can affect the people in the fandom community.

you could just put it under a cut if u wanna post it :v

i mean i could

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