#id'ing

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There's a spectrum here but I can't place what it is

i’m re-coming out? i’ve used they/them pronouns for a long time (not much irl, mostly on tumblr) and i’m still fine with she/her but like wow i’m. Not Just A Girl. this whole time i haven’t felt attracted to guys as a girl. like i see a fem-aligned person i’m attracted to and i like her as a girl. with guys i don’t have that and it goes beyond just how attraction differs by gender for bi people. and that’s cuz i’m not a girl! it’s taken me a while to re-realize this because i’ve been so focused on figuring out/categorizing/labeling my sexuality that i abandoned my pursuit of a gender identity that fits. and i dropped my pronouns irl to make myself more palatable to het guys (gross i know :/ ). but here we are! feelin affirmed in our elusive but valid identity!

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