Men Pay Attention
Genuinely one of the most important things I could talk about: there’s a difference in supporting a legitimate partner through struggle, versus slowly training yourself to accept chronic inconsistency, neglect, low effort, emotional unavailability, etc from a man because you think enduring it makes you more valuable to him somehow. Especially when there's no reciprocity.
A man benefiting from your patience is not the same thing as him respecting it.
Men are extremely observant to what is tolerated or not. If a man learns that he can give inconsistent effort, emotionally withdraw, cross boundaries, come back with minimal reassurance, and still fully retain access to you every single time, that becomes the relationship dynamic. Being overtly accommodating does nothing more than remove his own urgency, and lower the emotional cost of disappointing you.
