Why do female teenage characters cannot be emotional, loud, annoying, complex or just HUMAN without people acting like they are the anti Christ for not being semi perfect???
If they are semi perfect, have the normal reaction to their trauma and they still get destroyed or called boring if they aren't complex or human and even can get called Mary sue character if you don't give them enough depth or edge.It's like you are damned either way, fuck that.
Write female characters how you like. You want them to be a piece of shit? Do it! You want them to be a piece of shit but humanizing them? Do it! You want them to be self righteous and try to do the right thing even if they had to act judgmental and annoying about it? Do it. You want them to be the villian? Do it! You want them to be a victim? Do it.
And let's also start writing more teenage male characters who cry openly, who express their masculinity in however way they want whether is through outwardly or inwardly. You want to make them crybabies? Do it. You want to write them in ways that female characters get shamed for? Do it. You want them to be comforted? Do it. There is never one way to write human characters.
We need to break this stereotypes and just write human characters. Human characters who sometimes cry, sometimes doesn't, who can be stoic or sensitive or even both since it doesn't need to be one over the other, fighter or peacemaker or even both or neither. Male characters can be just as soft as female characters can be and female characters can be as tough as male characters can be.
Let teenage characters be as messy as they can be and let's not judge them with the same standards that you would if they were adult since no teenagers deserved that treatment even if they are that annoying or bratty.
Let them be annoying and emotional as they can be even if others misunderstand them. Let them misunderstand them. Let them hate them even if you didn't write them hateful. People will project and sadly some people do give high standards to teenage characters more than any other characters. Adult characters can be forgiven more than the teenage characters ever get and that can be reflected in our society still...