The truth of Jesus is what leads her to her highest value and without comparison because the fruit of the Spirit is without law. Comparison comes from creating standards based on human opinions, there’s no grace in that. This is why men would often divorce and why Jesus was so strict concerning divorce, because men were judging their wives based on human opinion, standards, and law.
How come men’s mind are so focused and lost in woman’s physical appearance, because they can’t see their true beauty in the Holy Spirit, so their view and judgement is reduced to physical attributes and features, when there’s a greater, holy, truth there the entire time. It’s why sexuality is the number one perversion on the planet, with no close second.
There are a lot of insecurities people carry around that matter to them and burden them daily that shouldn’t and wouldn’t if they saw themselves the way Jesus does. And people look for escapes but there isn’t one if it’s not Jesus. Without Him, all you find is another opinion, another preference, another need or expectation, but still broken.