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Manage your expectations. The more you expect YOU from the narcissist, the more disappointed you’ll be. Expecting the narcissist to suddenly be normal, respectful, understanding and logical is a great way to be more and more disappointed. Let yourself be disappointed instead of gaslighting yourself into believing that they will one day “see the error in their ways” and holding your breath for however much time you think they need to see the light or whatever. (Tip: pour that energy and effort into yourself and your healing journey.) When you expect them to be exactly who they are, it’s a lot less shocking to observe them being exactly who they are. Instead of having expectations of other people (in general too, not just narcs), taking them at face value and trusting their behaviour over their words will save you an immense amount of stress. Of course, this doesn’t change the situation or eliminate the stress completely, but it’s a great start to have this shift in perspective in the back of your mind. 🚨🚨🚨PS: Registration is OPEN for my free webinar: Creating Your Own Closure After Narcissistic Abuse! It’s happening LIVE on March 28, at 2:00 pm EST. Go to the link in my bio to register! #Narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuse #emotionalabuse #mentalabuse #narcissist #hiddenabuse #gaslighting #manipulators #verbalabuse #covertnarcissist #narcopath #projection https://www.instagram.com/p/Cp2OyyYMtwL/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

Reposted from @zee__belle_ Don’t forget to smile and ignore any miserable soul who tries to ruin your day. Keep smiling! #beepbeep #goodmorning #tuesdaymotivation #survivor #hiddenabuse #psychologicalabuse #psychopaths #sociopaths #narcissists #liars #exposingthetruth #jealous #jealousyisadisease #narcissisticabuse #gangstalking #target #keepsmiling #dontletidiotsruinyourday #dontletanyonebringyoudown #emptyvesselsmakethemostnoise #quixotickaneLIKES😎😉🤭 https://www.instagram.com/p/CQNLsxyHATR/?utm_medium=tumblr

Pro tip: you literally have no obligation to BELIEVE what the narcissist is saying to you. Here are 3 steps to ground yourself back to reality that they’re completely full of shit if you’re struggling to stop believing them: 1️⃣ Take a deep breath - I know this is cliché but seriously pause and take a deep breath, or 10. 2️⃣ Remember what you already know about narcissists. They’re only concerned with themselves and how they feel - and they resort to manipulating people into believing they’re amazing and then once they have them where they want them, they making their targets jump through hoops to receive basic human decency and respect. Is this someone who seems to be trustworthy? No? Exactly. So whatever they’re trying to make you believe about yourself is bullshit. They just want you to react. There’s nothing wrong with you, and just because someone who’s so insecure about themselves thinks it’s fun to fuck with people like this, it doesn’t make whatever they’re saying true. 3️⃣ Check in with how you feel. Journal it out, sit with the feeling, and release the feeling. This will help you to stop giving a shit. (Or you can keep repressing the feeling and be exhausted caring about what the narc is saying). Processing your emotions is a day by day thing and you can’t expect to master this overnight, but one day at a time is a really great start. Was this helpful? If so save this post for the future if you ever find yourself gaslighting yourself into believing the shit this person is saying about you! Looking to take your healing journey a step further? Check out the link in my bio for options! #Narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuse #narcissistfree #emotionalabuse #psychologicalabuse #mentalabuse #toxicistoxic #toxicpeople #gaslightingawareness #darktriad #narcissist #narcissisticabusesurvivor #hiddenabuse #gaslighting #narcissistawareness #toxicrelationships #manipulators #emotionalvampires #emotionaldamage #smearcampaign #verbalabuse #covertnarcissist #narcopath https://www.instagram.com/p/CphvP5uOL2m/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

A study was published in 2020 on nature.com that humans have an average of over 6000 thoughts per day. There isn’t enough time in the day to take each thought seriously, so realistically speaking, the majority of those 6000 thoughts are irrelevant. Over my own life experience, I’ve observed that reality is always reality, and the world also continues to spin regardless of how many or what type of thoughts I have. The same has been true about the narcissists I’ve dealt with throughout my life and their many thoughts. I can even say the same thing about all the clients I’ve worked with over the years and the narcissists they’ve had to deal with in their lives. Regardless of the number and types of thoughts we all collectively had, thoughts didn’t change the reality, and the world continued to spin. Narcissists will have their opinions, and their opinions will be whatever they think will trigger you into an emotional reaction so they can get supply and feel all powerful and in control over you. They create this power dynamic so you start believing what they say is relevant, and that gives them even more of a sense of power and control over you. When you see their bs for what it is, and how irrelevant their end goal is, and how their end goal is at the detriment of your sense of self, it puts things into perspective. You don’t have to feel like the worst person in the world because the narcissist is having a tantrum over not having control over you. (But they won’t tell you that cause then you’d know how irrelevant they are!) #Narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuse #narcissistfree #emotionalabuse #psychologicalabuse #mentalabuse #toxicistoxic #toxicpeople #gaslightingawareness #darktriad #narcissist #narcissisticabusesurvivor #hiddenabuse #gaslighting #narcissistawareness #toxicrelationships #manipulators #emotionalvampires #emotionaldamage #smearcampaign #verbalabuse #covertnarcissist #narcopath https://www.instagram.com/p/CmGwNXRsOnd/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

Instead of wasting time justifying that it’s somehow okay for someone to treat you badly if they’re just an asshole and not a narcissist, pour that time and effort into yourself and your healing process. You don’t have to differentiate the shitty people in your life to justify prioritizing your emotional and mental health. 🚨🚨🚨🚨Want to learn how? Then I have exciting news! On March 28 at 2:00 pm EST, I’ll be hosting a FREE live webinar on creating your own closure after narcissistic abuse without gaslighting yourself. Head over to the link in my bio to register! #Narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuse #narcissistfree #emotionalabuse #psychologicalabuse #mentalabuse #toxicistoxic #toxicpeople #gaslightingawareness #darktriad #narcissist #narcissisticabusesurvivor #hiddenabuse #gaslighting #narcissistawareness #toxicrelationships #manipulators #emotionalvampires #emotionaldamage #smearcampaign #verbalabuse #covertnarcissist #narcopath https://www.instagram.com/p/CpvvWC4u3s9/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Clarity over comfort. Transparency over secrecy. Structure over spin. Love over anger. "Hiding became a way of life for her. I don't know if she knows who she is, but I do know she knows how to hide." Quote from Calling Out the Shadows: A Father's Stand Against the Current by Neal Winsomer. Available June 16, 2026.