#heythandi

or at least think about it really, really hard.

One thing life has taught me is that the quickest way to achieve your dreams is to Align with them in body, mind and Spirit. The quickest way out of Alignment with your dreams is compromising.

Since childhood, the first thing you’re taught to do is compromise. Initially this is done for survival. You come into the world whole, blank and into the arms of two beings who have been in the world for a while, having picked up a plethora of beliefs and thoughts. These people run your world. They give you a roof over your head, food to eat; survival. So you learn to adapt to these beliefs, thoughts, this environment because you subconsciously understand that without them, you cannot live.

You learn which behaviours get you rewarded and which behaviours get you punished. You modify your behaviour based on these rewards and punishments - whilst trying to grow and define your own existence for yourself. As if that’s not enough, you get thrust into the social experiment called “school” that comes with its own set of rules; written and unwritten.

You’re subconsciously taught that fitting in is the most important thing because people do not like different. Everyday you put on a different mask for different people because your job is to make sure that everybody around you is pleased - because then your life is easier. You won’t deal with much shit.

But that is the biggest illusion that has been weaved for humankind. You can’t make everybody happy. You can’t really make anybody happy. Happiness is an individual choice for everybody. You can have influence on those you care about but any change in their mood is solely their decision.

A lot of people are so very afraid of saying “no”, of creating their boundaries because the fear that has been embedded in their subconscious mind is that “no” could mean “giving up”, death; the end their existence. Be it from home, or socially, emotionally, financially…

But see, boundaries are exactly what you need in order to get to where you want to truly go in life. You have to be clear about what your desires are and what you are and are not willing to do to achieve them. It is these boundaries that inform the Universe what you’re available and not available for.

Allowing anything other than you to program your existence may give you someone else or something else to blame temporarily, but the ultimate responsibility lies with you.