#het ace

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Transhet ace, transhet aroace, and finally transhet aro moodboards! Flags from this post. 

All photos are my own, please credit if you re-use. 

[Image description: four three-by-three moodboards featuring photos of nature like sky, ocean, trees, water, flowers, and leaves. The first moodboard is around a dark pink, light pink, grey, light blue, and dark purple transhet ace flag and it’s shades of pink, greys, blues, and purple with photos of the sky at sunset and a close up of flowers and snowy tree branches. 

The second moodboard is around a dark orange, light orange, grey, blue, and dark blue transhet aroace flag. The top row is of orange leaves and flowers, the second row has grey skies at sunset with hints of orange and blue, and the final row has photos of blue skies and water. 

Look, there’s several reasons why I (a panromantic asexual) will always be arguing for het ace inclusion in the LGBT+ community.

One of the reasons is personal. When I was 16, I came out as asexual to my friends. Most of them accepted me instantly. But a few of them.... One of my so-called friends outed me. And then she backed me into a corner and spent over half an hour trying to convince me that I was actually straight, even after I started crying. As far as she was aware, I was het ace. This didn’t stop her from trying to persuade me that if I tried hard enough, I could be straight.

In many ways, I was lucky. Everyone that she’d outed me to agreed to keep the secret, and I managed to spend the rest of secondary school safely in the closet. She left the school shortly after outing me, but for the remainder of her time there, she treated me like dirt for what I was, and for my refusal to renounce my asexuality.

Other reasons are... well, the reasoning behind a lot of het ace exclusionists is that if someone experiences ‘straight’ attraction in every way except sexual attraction, then they won’t be oppressed, because straight people won’t oppress you for not feeling something.

Except that historically, this is blatantly not the case. There are many records of women being institutionalised by their husbands for not being enthusiastic enough in the bedroom. Some of these women were likely lesbians; others might have been straight or bi women who were unhappily married. But it is also distinctly probable that some of these women were asexual. Even now, medication can be prescribed for a lack of sexual attraction, even if there is no medical cause for this lack of attraction. I remember when I was 18 I overheard a conversation when a man said that asexuals should just ‘take pills to fix that’.

aroace people can call themselves queer

cishetaces can call themselves queer

cishetaros can call themselves queer

transhets can call themselves queer

Straight trans women? ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Straight trans men? 🧡🧡🧡🧡

Straight non-binary folks? 💛💛💛💛

Straight ace-specs? 💚💚💚💚

Straight aro-specs? 💙💙💙💙

Straight aroaces? 💜💜💜💜