#help yourself

This was a first for me when my therapist showed it to me—so now I'm sharing it with you.

Like!!

I'm allowed to need "Make"?

And "For"?!

All jokes aside, this thing is changing the way I view my needs.

Whether its law of attraction, law of assumption, non dualism, shifting, etc. It doesn't matter. There may be a few outliers but it really doesn't do much.

I know this because I used to be that person who would read those posts and agree but never apply.

Why? Well its because you want to believe something so much that you try to force yourself even though your mind is telling you "this shit makes no sense." And you fall back into that cycle of not living end the end, or being in the state of having it, whatever.

People have to realize that manifestation has everything to do with you and you only. But y'all can't fathom that because whatever it is you want. You don't want it bad enough. Sorry, I said it.

"Well, i just get so depressed and angry because–" Sometimes you have to sit with your emotions and let that fuel you into your state of mind: I have it all. I have everything I want.

Reality continued to send punches my way but it wasn't until I got a hard kick to the ribs and brutally beaten (figuratively😭) before I decided fuck it, i am powerful and I have every fucking thing I want.

You just don't want it bad enough. I know some people may find me saying that very very offensive and insensitive. But I truly believe you don't want it. Once you want something so badly and YES, you do have to want it. Wanting and desiring something is a very strong feeling that really can control your mind and actions if you let it. If you want it you're going to say fuck everyone and everything else. Fuck my circumstances. Fuck this shitty life. I know exactly who the fuck i am and what the fuck I can make happen.

So, you can read a thousand posts about different methods and why you aren't manifesting your desires. You can explain the different methods and why people aren't getting their desires. None of it is going to work if you are not wanting it enough. If you are not willing to use the powerful mind and tongue to speak and think your desires into your reality.

Five Steps to "Unblending"

When we are triggered by something and our traumatized parts get activated, their feelings flood the body with intense and overwhelming feelings and impulses to act or react in ways that are not "us" or who we intend to be. That experience is called "blending," To find our adult selves again, we need to "unblend," to mindfully separate from the intense reactions of the parts until we have a felt sense of "I'm here" and also "he or she is still here, too." Here are the five steps to unblending:

1. First, assume that any and all upsetting or overwhelming feelings and thoughts are a communication from parts-and try to make that assumption even if you are not sure it is true.

2. Describe the feelings and thoughts as "their" reaction: "They are upset— they are having a hard time—they are overwhelmed." See what happens when you speak for the parts by talking about "their" feelings.

3. Create a little more separation from them, just enough so you can feel their feelings less intensely and you can feel yourself, too. Change your position, lengthen your spine, engage your core, or sit back. Keep repeating, "They are feeling…”

4. Use your wise grownup mind, the part of you that is a compassionate friend or organized professional, to have a reassuring conversation with whomever is upset. Acknowledge that the part or parts are afraid, overwhelmed, ashamed, or sad. Imagine: if these were the fears of your colleagues, clients, or friends, how would you respond? What would you tell them? Ask them what they need from you to be a little less afraid.

5. Get their feedback and opinions: Is what you are doing helping even a little? What do they need right in this moment to feel a little less alone, a little less afraid, a little less angry? Do they like it when you listen and show concern? Promise them that you will check in with them, make more of an effort to remember they are in distress, or be more protective.