#help others

Lately, I've been thinking about starting a second blog, this time focused on a topic that has become an important part of my life—ADHD.

Although I was diagnosed with ADHD, along with several other mental health conditions, many years ago, it wasn't until about the last five years that I truly began learning about and understanding what ADHD really is. Receiving a diagnosis was one thing, but understanding how it affects my daily life, my thoughts, my emotions, and the way I approach everyday tasks has been an entirely different journey.

The more I've learned, the more I've realized that ADHD is so much more than the stereotypes many people still believe. It's not simply about being distracted or having too much energy. It affects executive functioning, emotional regulation, motivation, time management, organization, and so many other aspects of daily life. Understanding these challenges has helped me make sense of experiences that once left me feeling frustrated or confused.

Of course, there are already countless blogs, websites, podcasts, YouTube channels, and social media creators dedicated to ADHD. There is certainly no shortage of information available today, and that's a wonderful thing. The more people sharing accurate information and personal experiences, the better.

So why would I want to add another ADHD blog to the mix?

Because every person's experience is different.

No two people with ADHD experience it exactly the same way. The coping strategies that work for one person may not work for another. Sometimes, all it takes is hearing someone explain a challenge in a slightly different way before everything suddenly clicks.

I'd love to create a space where I can share my own experiences, the lessons I've learned, practical tips that have helped me, and resources that I think are genuinely useful. If something I've learned can make life a little easier for someone else, then sharing it feels worthwhile.

I also hope that a blog like this could help people who don't have ADHD gain a better understanding of the condition. Whether it's family members, friends, employers, coworkers, or educators, having more people understand what ADHD really looks like can lead to greater empathy, patience, and support.

One phrase I've always believed in is "Knowledge is power."

The more we learn about ourselves, the better equipped we are to navigate life. The more others learn about ADHD, the easier it becomes to break down misconceptions and replace judgment with understanding.

At this point, it's still just an idea—but it's one I'm seriously considering. If I do decide to start this new blog, I hope it becomes a place where people can learn, relate, laugh at the occasional ADHD moment, and realize they aren't alone.

The whole thing is predicated on the notion of doing as much as you physically can to pursue your goals, even to the detriment of your health and relationships.

The "grindset" (🤮) is such an apt term bc when we talk about grinding in this context, it seems to be an allegory for honing an edge in the same way a blacksmith would, and yes, getting a nice sharp edge on a blade is a good thing when your tool is used to cut something or someone, but the best blacksmiths also know when to stop grinding to ensure the blade is also strong and wont break.

If youre waking up at 3 am, going to bed at 11pm, and working nonstop between those hours, your blade is brittle and it (and you) will not survive our battle. My tools may be blunt in comparison, but razors lose their edge the fastest, and a hammer will kill you just as quick as a sword. The major difference is that a sword has one purpose - to harm others, while a hammer can also build foundations, break barriers, and create new tools.

All this is to say that defining yourself based on your productivity will never be satisfying in the long-term. A single focus makes you weak in every other area. You need to redefine productivity to include rest, surrounding yourself with people who love and support you and who you love and support in return, and lifting up other people. You have to diversify your life, your skills, and your community. You have to care more about others and less about yourself. (Hey, you. Yeah, you, who thinks this is about you even though you constantly put others needs ahead of your own. This aint about you. Care more about yourself. You cant help about others if you arent first making sure you're well enough to be useful. Doofus. I love you.)

We arent meant to be selfish. We arent meant to be tools for the use of companies who would just as quickly replace us as they break us. We aren't meant to hurt each other and step on the bodies of those who came before to climb higher. We're meant to work together to build better for those who come next. We dont need to climb a pile of corpses to reach new heights. We only need to be willing to rely on each other and support those who need it.

The modern world has created the ability to connect with so many people from the world across, but we've inadvertently lost the one thing the past did well - local community. We are all too busy caring about what strangers say on the internet to care about the people on our doorstep who need real help, and who can pay that help forward to the people on their doorstep.

Basic Human Kindness and Respect

by WigOutlet

Basic Human Kindness is not to be taken for granted, illustration with birds in a journal