#heartovermind

You have woken up late,

lost and perplexed

but don't rush to your books

looking for knowledge.

Pick up a flute instead

and let your heart play.

Rumi

Good morning!

I haven't posted for a few days, I was not inspired! But then I saw this post in FB from some who complained about how "dirty" an online conversation turned. I read the thread they had with that other individual, I didn't think it was bad but more to the point they entertained that line of thinking.

That made me think about when I dabbed in online dating, cause I felt I had to do it. At some point, I couldn't understand why most conversations were shifting to a sexual connotation. I was like, what's wrong with them.

Then I started waking to the fact that I was insinuating, I was driving the convos toward that line of thinking. I, as a self-seeker, wanting to be liked and be "normal" (i.e. before I knew more about ace), started turning those convos towards the "dirty" side of the street; until I was in a place where I just didn't want to be (mentally).

So do we attract crazy, when online? The majority of the time yeah. My experience tells me that I cannot really be myself when I'm seeking something that is not me. Today, I'd rather stay single then even thinking of online dating.

I have no idea how to meet people, but instead of hiding behind a screen, I'm gonna go and find out.

Have a fab Sunday

Self-portrait painted in February, 2016. Medium: watercolor, charcoal, gel pen, and oil pastel. 

One of the kindest skills we can learn is how to gently balance the logic of our mind with the feelings of our heart. Psychologically, feelings are real, valid, and deeply important but they can also be short‑lived, overwhelming, or sometimes misleading, while thoughtful decisions usually bring more steady and lasting effects.

At the same time, some of the most beautiful and important parts of life require us to open up, feel deeply, and follow our hearts when it’s safe and meaningful. I’m still kindly learning how to hold both using my mind to choose with care and wisdom, while also giving my emotions space, understanding, and compassion, so I can live honestly and wholeheartedly, not just logically.

Photo by Corey Dupree: https://www.pexels.com/photo/calm-woman-meditating-on-beach-6591291/

When making important decisions, we typically try to think through all the options, straining our brains to come up with the best solutions. In the process, we often stress, overthink, and become anxious. We rely on our heads to figure everything out. But in doing that, we make a grave error because our brains are not everything they are cracked up to be

We have been told that all our intelligence resides in the brain, but that is not accurate. The entire human body is a system of intelligence that communicates with us all the time. We learned that our head is in charge, and everything else should be subordinate to it, but that is not true. Our brains are capable of collecting, sorting, and filtering information, as well as analyzing options and predicting outcomes. Our heads are capable of a lot, but they are not in charge. Our hearts are much more powerful. The hearts speak the language of the soul, so when we hear our hearts, we can hear the truth.

Because the brain communicates linearly (words strung into sentences), we find its messages recognizable and easily acceptable, believing it is the only thing that makes sense. The heart does not speak a human language; it does not produce thoughts. It communicates through emotions and sensations that can then be translated into human speech. This type of communication is unfamiliar to us, and so we naturally tend to misunderstand and dismiss it. But as comfortable as we are with the thoughts in our heads, leaving the heart out of the conversation is a serious mistake.

Based on the research done by the HeartMath Institute (https://www.heartmath.org/), the heart is about 60 times greater electrically and up to 5,000 times stronger magnetically than the brain. As a result, more signals are sent from the heart to the brain than from the brain to the heart. Our heads house powerful “computers” that process a lot of input, but the brain of our operation, pardon the pun, does not reside there. It lives in our hearts.

Learning to communicate with the heart is a skill that can be easily developed by anyone. Energetically, the heart center is located in the center of the chest, not in the physical organ. That is the place to tune into when you want guidance and sound decision-making. Try this. Sit down quietly, and slow down your conscious thoughts. Focus on nothing. Let sensations come to you. If you have a specific question, ask it in your mind (ex: Should I do X?) or imagine yourself doing X. Then shift your focus to your heart center. How does it respond? Is there warmth or a sensation of comfort or safety? Do you get any other sensations in your body (like a chill or tingling)? Do you get a sense that you know the answer even though you can’t quite put it into words yet? All of these are things to pay attention to, and the more you do, the more comfortable you will become with the responses, and the clearer they will become.

We have been taught to believe that listening to one’s heart is a weakness, but this just served to separate us from the only true guiding system – our spiritual connection. So I say, listen to your heart! Let it guide you! Let it give you solutions! And then allow your head to figure out how to implement them. When our heads and our hearts work together, we come into a state of coherence or order, and that is a very powerful state indeed.