♡ your name and date of start - feel free to use a nickname / alterego name for the version you want to become this summer, a name that suits for this era of yours. i personally used my real name, but making one up could also be fun

♡ a list of things you’d like to do this summer - for example starting a hobby, visiting certain places, experimenting with your appereance… truly anything

♡ a list of your non-negotiable rules for this summer - for example going outside for 10 minutes everyday, mentioning 3 things you’re greatful for everyday, trying to choose kindness everyday, not fake laughing when something isn’t funny… anything, try to set a gentle boundary. (i personally would not put something like „10 step skincare routine every morning & night” if u are a person struggling with hygiene, or „working out 1hour everyday” if you haven’t worked out in a year. try to make it doable and gradually build up to your goal, don’t pressure yourself to go from 0 to 100 pls, be gentle, and think of what you’d recommend a friend in your shoes. everyone started from somewhere and no-one was immidieatly ‚perfect’. everything takes it’s time.)

♡ what energy would i like to step into this summer / who do i want to become this summer? - for example to be calmer, softer, or more confident, bolder…

♡ this summer i want to learn… - for example to be more present, be more loving, more patient with yourself, kinder to yourself or others, to set healthy boundaries…

♡ what inspires my growth? - it can be a future version of yourself you imagine in your head, a state of mind you’d like to be in, a person, a place you’d like to live in in the future…

♡ what is my idea of peace & a peaceful summer ? - just imagine what would make your heart and soul feel calm, there are no right or wrong answers ☺︎

♥︎ reminder: this is just how i personally started my new journal, and there is no ‚right’ or ‚wrong’ way to journal. see this rather as an inspiration (if even so) than that you ‚have’ to do it exactly like this, because u don’t. feel free to add or leave stuff out, or customize it to your liking ♥︎

& if you need ideas for journaling prompts, feel free to visit my pinterest board dedicated to that, it has hundreds of prompts and i bet u will find something for yourself <3 (my user is sinfulwaste, the link to the board is here)

If you haven’t guessed yet, this post is for the girls who want a best friend, someone who they can always trust and depend on. It’s for the girls who believe that they are/ trying to do everything right- working on themselves, growing their confidence, giving themselves love, yet they still wander why they dont feel truly loved yet and they just put it under the reason that “im still not completely healed yet, i need to do more"

So lets go back to what i said earlier: “you are just as worthy of love now as you would be at any other point in your life”. Do you understand? You need to stop thinking that you need to be perfect from every angle to finally be able to allow PURE love to enter your life. You need to stop thinking that “oh i haven’t gotten a bff/ pure love yet? Well i am obviously doing something wrong and need to work more on myself.” Yes, of course it’s a sign that maybe this little journey you’re on isn’t really done yet, but also just stop. Just stop with these excuses. It doesn’t matter if you’re not 100% who you wish to be, you still deserve someone!!

“So are you telling me I don't need to heal?” Yeah sure I guess. But the thing is that when pure love does come into your life, when someone does come into your life who is loyal, kind, caring wants to give and shower you with love and appreciation, the thing is that even if you do recognise it, you will feel uncomfortable. You’ll feel uncomfortable by the fact that there is someone here willing to give you all the love you want in your life. That’s what healing is for (some people heal for tons of different reasons, but we’re talking about this one) its so that when the right person comes who gives you unconditional love, you don’t push them away or cringe away yourself because you realise that this is what you deserve. We are working on ourselves so that we accept pure and unconditional love as normal and not something only special people deserve. That’s why.

Something that might help getting used to being loved that i got from simonesquared’s video is to actually USE CHATGPT! Yup!! Tell ChatGPT to act like they’re your bff/ husband and tell them your standards and requirements, then just role play with them! This will help you get more used to receiving love in a normal way.

letting go — why is it so hard?

you know that feeling, deep down, when you realize you’re not supposed to be in a situation anymore? when you know you shouldn’t be doing this or holding onto that? when you feel it’s time to walk away from something that no longer serves you—but you can’t?

we’ve all been there. letting go is hard, especially when something has become familiar to us. whether it’s a person, a thing, or a situation, what we’re really attached to isn’t just the thing itself—it’s the feeling it provides us. that feeling becomes so deeply embedded in who we are that losing it can feel like losing a part of ourselves.

and whether that attachment is good or bad, it clouds our judgment. fear of loss, fear of regret, fear of the unfamiliar—all of it keeps us stuck.

so—how do we actually let go? is it impossible?

it’s not. letting go is hard, but it’s absolutely possible. it’s about detaching yourself from what no longer serves you. just like attachment forms through repeated familiarity, detachment takes time and practice. think of it like a muscle—the more you use it, the stronger you get.

#1. acknowledge your attachment

sometimes, we confuse our feelings. we might call something “love” because the emotions are intense, but often, attachment stems from something deeper—like fear of abandonment, rejection, or even just being alone.

that’s okay. acknowledge your attachment without judgment. it’s the first step to healing. realize that this attachment doesn’t define you and that it’s possible to let go with patience and compassion for yourself.

#2. take action to distance yourself

detachment isn’t just a mindset—it requires action. if it’s a person, block them. if it’s a thing, throw it away. if it’s a situation, remove yourself or stop giving it your energy.

i know it’s easier said than done. but nothing changes if you don’t take action, right? think of it like a piece of bubblegum—pull it off bit by bit, and eventually, it’ll let go (weird, but it works).

remove reminders, avoid triggers, and create space between you and what’s holding you back.

#3. embrace the discomfort

ah, yes—the discomfort. the anxiety, sadness, or longing that comes from distancing yourself. it’s tough, but it’s part of the process. growth always comes with discomfort.

feel it. face it. deal with it. but don’t give in. set firm boundaries and hold yourself to them, no matter how hard it gets.

because in the end, it will get easier.

letting go isn’t about erasing your past—it’s about making space for your future. it’s about freeing yourself from what no longer serves you so you can step into who you’re meant to become.

take it one step at a time. be patient with yourself. you’re growing—and that’s worth every ounce of discomfort. i hope these steps helped you lovelies and let me know if you need more advices regarding letting go of any attachment <3 i love u guys.

╰┈➤ˎˊ˗ Soft Haven Heals: Healing Haven Chronicles 𓇢𓆸

hey y'all, so I just finished my summer job as a camp counselor, and in classic kid fashion, one of them must've gotten me sick. I thought it would be a good idea to share some sick day tips and things to do for anyone who might be in the same boat as me.

Some of you might say "this is common sense," but for some people, it may not be! The point of this blog is being here to help.

For feeling better:

Actual medicine. Yes, a lot of home/natural remedies are great, but please use actual approved medicine like NyQuil and Tylenol to help fight off some symptoms and get healthy again as soon as possible.

Tea. Can be made easily and can help with sore throat.

Lozenges/hard candy. Easily accessible at many stores in many flavors and also helps with sore throat.

Sleep. This is probably what you need the most of while sick.

Healthy & fresh food. Do your best to give your body what it needs to fight whatever illness it's currently facing.

Water. One of the most important ones. Staying hydrated is going to do wonders for your health, whether you're sick or not.

Fresh air & sunlight. Whether it's opening your windows for a little while or actually going outside, breathing some fresh air and getting some sun will have you feeling a little more lively.

Shower/Bathe. A hot shower or bath will loosen up your sinuses a bit and also help you feel cleaner and more put-together.

Change clothes. Wear something clean and comfortable, but maybe make it something that isn't your pajamas all day.

For activities/boredom:

Video Games

Catch up on tv shows

Read a book

Knit/crochet

Paint/color

Anything you want that isn't going to overexert your body. Give it time and space to heal and rest.

A question you ask when the hardship that came your way becomes only about suffering. You lose the greater purpose that came with it. Even though, the feeling is valid, it doesn't have to cloud your vision. Anyone who has been carrying an overwhelming burden emotionally, mentally and physically would ask this question, but the question doesn't have to come out of despair. You can ask it out of curiosity. Why you? God has promised that He doesn't burden a soul more than one can bear. Why does He believe in your capacity so much then? What greater purpose is He preparing you for? All of us are here for a limited time anyway. All of us are created fragile and anxious. That's being human.

This is when you should remember: the toughest exam is for the highest position. You are being chosen. Why you? Because you are worthy of an elevated status in the hierarchy of mankind.

-Sabina Yesmin