I mistook your silence for losing you
requested by anon - Hii I don't know if you have written something similar but could you write a jake fic angst but also comfort in which jake has the tendency of avoiding confrontation after arguments and basically acting like nothing happened and so the reader doesn't like that because it reminds her of her family arguments that never ended with apologies etc. ?
You used to think the worst part of an argument was the yelling.
The worst part was when everything became quiet afterward.
Because yelling meant someone still cared enough to fight. Silence suggested that someone had already given up.
You learned that when you were young.
Arguments in your family were never really resolved. They were buried. Hidden underneath ordinary conversations and forced smiles.
Someone would say something cruel.
Someone else would cry behind a closed door.
And then, somehow, the next morning, everyone would sit at the same table and pretend nothing happened.
Just silence dressed up as peace.
You hated how much it stayed with you.
You hated how, even years later, a person acting normal after hurting you could make your chest tighten, and your thoughts spiral.
Because you knew what came next.
You knew what it felt like to slowly convince yourself that your feelings didn’t matter because nobody else seemed bothered by them.
Then Jake came into your life.
And you thought maybe he would be different.
That was the painful part.
Jake loved you in ways you didn’t even know you needed.
He remembered the little things.
He remembered which snacks you liked when you were stressed. He noticed when you were tired, even when you insisted you weren’t. He would quietly fix things before you even realized they needed fixing.
Jake wasn’t the kind of person who loved loudly.
He loved through actions.
And maybe that was why you never expected that the one thing that hurt you most would be something he did without even realizing it.
Jake avoided confrontation.
Not because he didn’t care.
Almost because he cared too much.
Arguments overwhelmed him. Emotional conversations where everything was uncertain made him uncomfortable. He liked knowing how to fix things, solve problems, and create order.
But feelings weren’t always something you could organize.
And sometimes, when things got too intense, Jake’s instinct was to retreat.
To wait until things felt normal again.
Except for you, normal was terrifying.
Because normal after an argument felt like pretending.
And pretending was something you knew too well.
The first time you really noticed it was after a small argument.
It wasn’t even something huge.
That almost made it worse.
You had been feeling distant from him for weeks. You knew he was busy and tired, but you missed him.
You missed feeling like you were part of his world.
“I feel like you don’t really need me lately.”
The second the words left your mouth, you regretted them.
“Why would you think that?”
“I don’t know.”
Because explaining feelings had always been difficult, your emotions came in waves, and sometimes they were too big to translate into words.
“I just feel like you’re somewhere else.”
But your brain didn’t know the difference.
“I’ve told you I’m busy, Y/N.”
“I know.”
“Then why are we having this conversation?”
The moment he said it, his expression changed.
Like he realized how it sounded.
Your heart had already taken the words and turned them into something sharper.
“No, wait. That’s not what I meant.”
But you were already pulling away.
“I think I just wanted you to understand.”
“I do understand.”
“No, you understand the situation. You don’t understand how it feels.”
And you immediately felt guilty.
You knew he wasn’t trying to dismiss you.
You knew he was probably trying to figure out what to say.
But your heart was already somewhere else.
The conversation ended without a real ending.
Jake apologized for upsetting you.
You apologized for being emotional.
And somehow, neither of you felt better.
That night, you stared at the ceiling for hours.
You wondered if you were asking for too much.
Maybe you were too sensitive.
Maybe other people could handle things better.
Maybe love wasn’t supposed to require so much reassurance.
Maybe you were the problem.
The next morning, Jake acted normally.
That was the part that broke you.
He came into the room with your favourite drink.
Because how could he ask that?
How could he stand there looking so calm when you felt like your whole heart was bruised?
“What?”
“Are we not going to talk about last night?”
His shoulders lowered slightly.
“I thought we were okay.”
The sentence that sounded so harmless to everyone else.
But to you, it sounded like every unfinished argument from your childhood.
“But we apologized.”
“No, we ended the conversation.”
You laughed softly, but there was no happiness in it.
“See? This is what I mean.”
“What?”
“You think because we stopped arguing, everything is fine.”
“Y/N…”
“No, I know you’re not trying to hurt me.”
“That’s what makes it worse.”
“I know you love me. I know you care. But when you act as if nothing happened, it feels like I’m the only one still carrying it.”
The room became painfully quiet.
And this time, Jake didn’t run from it.
“I grew up with this,” you whispered.
Jake’s expression changed.
“People would hurt each other and then pretend everything was okay. Nobody apologized. Nobody talked about it. Everyone just moved on.”
“And I always felt crazy for still being hurt because everyone else acted like it was nothing.”
Jake’s face broke a little.
“You thought I was doing that?”
Jake sat down beside you.
For a while, he didn’t say anything.
Usually, that would scare you.
But this time, you knew he was thinking.
Jake looked at his hands.
“I think I’ve been trying to make things better by making them normal.”
A tear slipped down your cheek.
“But I understand now that those are different things.”
“I don’t like conflict,” he admitted. “I never have. When someone I love is upset with me, my first thought is that I failed somehow.”
Your expression softened.
“I thought giving you space was helping.”
“It felt like you were leaving.”
Jake’s eyes softened immediately.
“I know you’re not. But sometimes my brain doesn’t know the difference.”
Jake reached for your hand slowly.
“You shouldn’t have to convince yourself that your feelings are allowed.”
“I feel like I’m too much sometimes.”
“No.”
His answer was immediate.
“You feel things deeply. That isn’t something I want to change about you.”
“I’m scared you’ll get tired of having to reassure me.”
“I might get things wrong,” he admitted. “I might need reminders. But I don’t want a version of you that needs less love.”
That was when you finally broke.
Not because you were sad.
Because you had been holding everything in for so long.
Jake pulled you into him without hesitation.
“I’m sorry,” he whispered.
Not because he thought repeating it would erase everything.
But because he wanted you to know he meant it.
You cried into his shoulder.
“I’m sorry too.”
“For what?”
“For assuming you didn’t care.”
“I understand why you did.”
And maybe that was the thing you needed.
Not someone who promised they would never hurt you.
Not someone who magically knew how to fix every wound.
Just someone willing to learn where the wounds were.
Someone willing to sit in the uncomfortable moments.
Later that night, Jake held your hand while you both talked.
There were moments where Jake struggled to find the right words.
There were moments when you cried because feelings were overwhelming.
But neither of you walked away.
Neither of you pretended.
Because love wasn’t hurting each other.
Love was learning how to come back.
And for the first time in your life, an argument didn’t feel like the beginning of losing someone.
It felt like proof that someone was willing to stay.
For a while, things were better.
And maybe that was what made it hurt more when things started slipping again.
Because you had allowed yourself to believe that you were safe.
You had allowed yourself to believe that maybe this time would be different.
You saw it in the small things.
The first time you disagreed after that night, he didn’t walk away.
You watched him struggle with himself, watched him swallow the instinct to shut down.
“I need a minute,” he said quietly.
Your heart immediately tightened.
“Not because I don’t want to talk to you. I want to calm down so I don’t say something I don’t mean.”
And that alone almost made you cry.
Before, a pause meant abandonment.
Now, he was teaching you that sometimes a pause could mean someone was trying to stay.
He started saying things out loud that had been trapped in his head.
“I’m upset, but I’m not angry at you.”
“I need time to process, but I’m not ignoring you.”
“I love you. We’re okay.”
Those words became something you held onto.
Because for someone like you, someone who felt everything too deeply and feared losing the people you loved, reassurance wasn’t a luxury.
But sometimes, old habits didn’t disappear just because someone understood them.
Sometimes they came back when people were tired.
You knew he wasn’t perfect.
You knew healing wasn’t a straight line.
But your heart still broke when it happened again.
It started on a day when everything felt wrong.
He was quieter than usual, answering with shorter replies, his mind somewhere else.
You tried not to take it personally.
But then you asked him a simple question.
Jake looked up from his phone.
But something in your chest felt uneasy.
His expression changed slightly.
The way he said it made you freeze.
Because suddenly you weren’t hearing Jake.
You were hearing every person who had ever told you that your concern was inconvenient.
Jake noticed immediately.
The silence after that was immediate.
You regretted it the second it left your mouth.
And guilt flooded through you.
“I didn’t mean—”
“No. You’re right.”
And for a moment, you thought maybe this was the moment.
The moment when you both talked.
The moment when things got repaired.
The one you knew too well.
“I know.”
“Then why does it feel like I’m always failing?”
“I feel like no matter what I do, I hurt you.”
Because that wasn’t what you wanted.
You never wanted him to feel like loving you was a punishment.
“I don’t think you’re failing.”
“But you’re always hurt.”
Because your brain twisted them into something else.
Jake immediately looked at you.
“I didn’t mean to make you feel like that.”
“That’s not what I said.”
“But it’s what you mean.”
“No, Y/N—”
“I think maybe…”
Because saying it out loud made it real.
Jake’s expression changed.
“Maybe I’m just not the kind of person you should be with.”
The room went completely still.
You looked down because you couldn’t handle seeing his face.
“You deserve someone easier.”
Someone who doesn’t overthink everything.
Someone who doesn’t need constant reassurance.
Someone who doesn’t turn every little thing into something bigger.
The thoughts came rushing out.
“I feel like I’m always asking you to prove you love me.”
“Y/N…”
“And I hate that.”
“I hate feeling like I need so much.”
“You think I’m tired of loving you?”
Because you were afraid the answer might hurt.
And the expression on his face broke something inside you.
Because Jake looked scared.
“I know you say that.”
“No.”
“I need you to understand it.”
“I thought avoiding conflict meant protecting us. I thought if I didn’t make things bigger, they would disappear.”
“But I forgot that disappearing isn’t the same as healing.”
“I’m sorry I made you feel like your feelings were something I had to deal with.”
Jake’s voice cracked slightly.
“Your feelings are part of you.”
“Sometimes I don’t believe you.”
“I know.”
That answer surprised you.
“And I’m not angry that you struggle to believe it.”
“Because I know someone taught you that love could disappear when you became inconvenient.”
“I can’t promise I’ll never make mistakes.”
He rested his forehead against yours.
A small, broken laugh escaped you.
“But I promise I won’t use your hurt as a reason to love you less.”
That sentence shattered you.
Because that was your biggest fear.
Not the misunderstandings.
It was the fear that one day someone would see how deeply you felt everything and decide it was too exhausting.
Jake held you while you cried.
“I almost left,” you whispered.
“I know.”
“I thought if I left first, it would hurt less.”
“No.”
“Because you don’t actually want to leave.”
You wanted the difficult conversations.
You wanted the uncomfortable moments.
You didn’t want to feel like you were the only one fighting for it.
Jake brushed your hair away from your face.
“Then don’t disappear when you’re scared.”
And that was the difference.
Before, you thought love meant finding someone who would never trigger your wounds.
But maybe love was finding someone who cared enough to help you heal them.
Someone who didn’t run when things became complicated.
Jake still hated confrontation.
You still felt things deeply.
He still needed time to process.
You still needed reassurance.
His silence wasn’t proof that he stopped caring.
And your emotions weren’t proof that you were too much.
You were just two people learning how to love each other in the places where you were hurt.
That night, Jake held you until you fell asleep.
And before you drifted off, you heard him whisper:
But this time, you believed him.
Jake always thought love was supposed to be simple.
He knew nothing meaningful was ever truly easy.
You did the right things.
At least, that was how Jake understood love.
He was a person who trusted actions more than words. If someone mattered to him, he made sure they knew through the little things.
Remembering their favourite drink.
Making sure they got home safely.
Checking if they had eaten.
Fixing things before they became problems.
Jake had always been like that.
When something broke, he fixed it.
When something was wrong, he found a solution.
When someone he loved was hurting, he wanted to take away the pain.
But loving you taught him something he never expected.
Sometimes people didn’t need solutions.
Sometimes they needed someone willing to sit beside them while the problem existed.
And that was something Jake was still learning.
Especially because he knew now how badly he had hurt you without ever intending to.
He remembered the first time you told him you were scared he would leave.
He remembered how your voice grew smaller.
Like you were apologizing for having a fear.
Like you were ashamed of needing reassurance.
And Jake hated himself a little for that.
Because he had always thought his silence was harmless.
He thought giving space was respectful.
He thought waiting until emotions settled was mature.
But he never realized that for you, silence wasn’t empty.
Silence had every moment where someone hurt you and then acted like you were wrong for still feeling it.
He didn’t know that every time he walked away to process, a part of you wondered if he was walking away from you.
And knowing made him want to be better.
Knowing didn’t mean he always knew how.
The day you shut down, Jake knew something was wrong immediately.
Jake knew you were quiet.
There was the quiet where you were comfortable.
The quiet where you were reading, listening to music, lost in your own thoughts.
This was the kind of quiet that felt like you had disappeared somewhere inside yourself.
You were sitting on the couch, staring at nothing.
Your phone was beside you, untouched.
Your favourite show was playing in the background, but you weren’t watching.
As you had forgotten he was there.
You immediately shook your head.
Before, that answer would have made him frustrated.
Before, he would have thought:
Sometimes nothing didn’t mean nothing.
I don’t know how to explain this.
I’m scared that if I start talking, I won’t stop crying.
I’m trying so hard not to be a burden.
You didn’t like feeling trapped when you were overwhelmed.
“I’m not going to force you to talk.”
Your eyes flickered toward him.
Your lips pressed together.
And that was when he saw it.
Because he recognized that sentence.
Because of the way you said it.
Like you were trying to convince yourself.
The old version of him would have immediately started asking questions.
Because this wasn’t a problem to solve.
This was the person he loved.
“I’m not going to ask you to explain everything right now.”
“For what?”
“For being like this.”
The words hit him harder than he expected.
“Too emotional. Too sensitive. Too much.”
Jake felt his chest ache.
Because there it was again.
That you were something difficult to carry.
“I know you’re trying to help.”
Your voice became quieter.
“But sometimes when I’m upset, I feel like I have to hurry and get better so you won’t get tired.”
Because he realized something.
Even after the conversations.
Even after his apologies.
A part of you was still waiting for him to decide you were too difficult.
And suddenly, Jake understood.
He hadn’t just hurt you during arguments.
He had reinforced a fear you already carried.
He had accidentally confirmed something you were already afraid of.
That if you were hurting too much, people would eventually stop choosing you.
“Don’t apologize.”
“Why?”
“Because I don’t want you to apologize just because I’m sad.”
You didn’t need a performance.
You didn’t need him to panic and say everything perfectly.
You needed him to understand.
“I’m sorry,” he repeated, quieter.
“Not because you’re crying.”
“Not because I want this moment to end.”
“I’m sorry because I understand now that I made you feel like your pain was something I needed to escape.”
A tear slipped down your cheek.
“Jake…”
“I used to think if I could make things normal again, I was helping.”
He gave a small, sad laugh.
“But sometimes I think I was doing it because I was uncomfortable seeing someone I love hurt.”
“And that wasn’t fair to you.”
Jake reached for your hand.
“I don’t want to fix you.”
“I know you’re not broken.”
That was the sentence that finally made you cry.
Because for once, someone wasn’t trying to convince you that your feelings were wrong.
“I don’t know how to stop feeling like this,” you whispered.
“Then you don’t have to stop right now.”
Your eyebrows pulled together.
“I thought you’d tell me to think differently.”
“I know.”
A small smile appeared on his face.
You laughed weakly through your tears.
“I don’t need you to become someone who doesn’t feel deeply.”
His thumb brushed over your knuckles.
“That’s one of the things I love about you.”
“I just want you to know you don’t have to earn my patience.”
“You don’t have to be easy to love.”
Jake’s voice became softer.
“You just have to be you.”
Not because he had solved anything.
Not because the sadness magically disappeared.
Like he was holding something precious.
“I’m sorry I didn’t understand sooner,” he whispered.
You shook your head against his shoulder.
Later that night, Jake thought about everything.
About every time, he had gone quiet.
Every time, he thought he was preventing an argument from becoming worse.
Every time, he had chosen comfort over conversation.
He realized something painful.
His silence had never meant he loved you less.
But love wasn’t only about intention.
And the impact of his silence had been that you felt alone.
He never wanted you to feel alone again.
Not when you were crying.
Not when you were scared.
Not when you were convinced you were too much.
He learned that sometimes holding your hand was more important than finding the perfect words.
He learned that sometimes “I’m here” mattered more than “Here’s how we fix this.”
He learned that emotions weren’t emergencies.
Moments where someone needed to be witnessed.
You learned that Jake’s quiet wasn’t always rejection.
Sometimes it was him trying.
Sometimes it was him gathering the courage to stay.
Sometimes love looked like two people sitting in the middle of their wounds and saying:
I don’t know how to do this perfectly.
But I’m willing to learn.
Months later, after another small disagreement, Jake felt the old instinct.
The urge to wait until everything was calm.
But then he looked at you.
So he reached for your hand.
“I’m overwhelmed,” he admitted.
A small smile appeared on your face.
And Jake realized that maybe healing wasn’t about being hurt again.
Maybe it was about finally having someone who stayed long enough to prove that hurt wasn’t the end.
That silence didn’t always mean goodbye.
That love didn’t disappear when things became difficult.
And this time, when the silence came…
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