#gynophobia

Gynophobia

Dw, you are not being mean for just asking questions! And its Gynophobia, it is a specific phobia disorder. Which is where a specific thing causes intense and often irrational anxiety. Some peple know its irrational but we still cannot control or stop feeling anxious. Gynophobia specifically is the fear of women. An important note is that it is not the same as misogyny. Misogyny is the hatred and discrimination of women, Gynophobia is an anxiety disorder.

Good evening, my beauties! I've been making some homemade pride flags today and I'm stoked to share them and their coined terms with ya'll!

Intersex Feminist / Intersex Feminist Pride Flag

I posted on here a while back that there should be an intersex feminist flag and my looking forward to it being made someday. Well then I decided to stop waiting and make it myself, so here it is! Basically a flag meant for promoting a more intersex inclusive feminism, especially for intersex women/femmes.

Feminist Man Lover / Pick-Me (Reclaimed)

A flag for women/femmes who are intersectional feminists and man lovers who abide by displaying a love, fondness and admiration for men, and is meant for actively resisting and fighting/rebelling against the problematic normalization of sexist, misandristic hatred and dehumanization of men in "feminist" spaces by sexist, hateful misandrist radfemcels and for simultaneously reclaiming the word pick me to spite said femcel misandrists who then throw such hypocritically misogynistic terms at women/femmes who don't agree with, enable or cow tow to misandrist femcel bullies. (This flag's somewhat self indulgent, but what the hey. Plus it's fun ticking misandrist femcel Karens off anyways 😎)

(Disclaimer: this is not to be misused for coddling, enabling or defending sexist, misogynistic, abusive and toxic men. This is only for fighting against misandry and rebelling against misandrist femcel bullies. That is all.)

Fae / Fae-Punk Pride Flag

I've discussed the proposal for this slang and subculture term in length before on a previous post but I'll discuss again here: a fae is slang for a beautiful, mystical, ethereal and stunning intersex woman/interfemme. This is meant for intersex women and interfemmes to claim as a way to build confidence and empowerment in acknowledging and embracing our unique beauty, especially the beauty in intersex womanhood and intersex femininity and intersex queer womanhood and femininity, in a harsh, cruel and nasty world and society that frequently tries to erase, mock, dismiss, laugh at, disrespect and dehumanize us yet also simultaneously and hypocritically objectifying, fetishizing and hyper-sexualizing us. Since "fae" is short for "fairy", this not only is in reference to fae/fairy mythology from fairy tale folklore but also thus overlaps with intersex women and interfemmes reclaiming the trope and idea of being seen as alluring, fascinating, magical, desirable and intriguing but only reclaiming it for ourselves to take back our agency and autonomy, and not for the sake of appeasing or getting approval from interphobes, intersexists and intermisogynists that erase and dehumanize us while also simultaneously objectifying and fetishizing us (ew!). This also parallels some queer folks reclaiming the word fairy. (refererence: @satyrradio's Alluring Intersex flag, for intersex folks who reclaim the Intersex Allure trope)

This slang and subculture aims to empower and uplift black and brown intersex women and interfemmes of color, queer intersex women and interfemmes in alternative subcultures and autistic, neurodivergent and disabled intersex women and interfemmes (especially as I'm a black/brown mixed race and autistic neurodivergent and disabled intersex woman and interfemme). This also incorporates elements of hyperfem, coquette, bimbocore, fairycore, punk, cryptidcore, dark coquette and fairy grunge (though whatever fashion and subculture aesthetic you feel best fits you is welcome, and intersex women/femmes who are masc, butch or futch are welcome to use as well!). Intersex men and intermascs, especially autistic, neurodivergent and disabled intersex men and intermascs and black and brown intersex men and intermascs of color are absolutely welcome to claim the term fae and use this flag, as intersex men and intermascs, especially those of color and who are more feminine and androgynous in expression and presentation are just as likely to face intersexism, interphobia, intermisandry and intermisandrinoir just as much as intersex women and interfemmes face intersexism, interphobia, intermisogyny and intermisogynoir.

Rebellious Bisexual Man Lover

This term and flag speaks for itself: this is meant to proudly and stubbornly stand on loving bisexual men, whether romantically or platonically, and ultimately showing solidarity to bisexual men as an act of resistance against the problematic normalization of bi-phobia and bi-phobic misandry and emasculation towards bisexual men, regardless of whatever space or community you're in. If you're a straight woman and an LGBTQ+ ally (and more so if you have a bisexual boyfriend or husband), you're free to use this flag. If you're a bisexual woman/femme who knows what it's like to face bi-phobia and bi-phobic misogyny + invalidation for being a male leaning bi woman and wants to fight against that along with fighting against bi-phobic emasculation of bisexual men and the simultaneous, hypocritical fetishization, objectification and commodification of bisexual women, female bisexuality and bisexual female identity by bi-phobic misandrist femcels, this flag is absolutely for you. A break off of the spiteful man lover flag. (Once again, a self indulgent flag, but a necessary flag regardless!)

Intersex Feminist / Intersex Feminist Faepunk Pride Flag

Basically a bringing together of intersex feminists/intersex feminism and faes + fae subculture. (And, again, intersex women/femmes and intersex men/mascs are both free to use!)

Angry Rebellious Man Lover / Mean Pick Me / Gynophobia Afflicted Traumapunk

This flag is a mixture of the spiteful man lover and the feminist man lover / reclaimed pick me flags. This flag is for women/femmes who are proud man lovers and who are not only not sorry about it, but who are also done with misandrist femcel bullcrap and are completely done with (and/or utterly not interested in) being nice to, understanding or sympathetic to misandrist femcel Karens, and have no problem with quickly popping off at and clocking and dragging them with a quickness just like you have no problem with popping off at and clocking/dragging redpill fratdude misogynists. This is also a traumapunk flag for women/femmes who have gynophobia (a fear and distrust of women) as a result of trauma surrounding and stemming from negative traumatic experiences with women--whether it be toxicity and bullying from misandrist femcel mean girls on its own and being culturally and socially gaslighted and pressured into tolerating or justifying it under the guise of female unity or other general traumatic experiences with women such as bullying, abuse, neglect, toxic abusive female friendships, etc., or both. And considering that gynophobia is a very stigmatized and misunderstood trauma based mental health condition that's almost taboo to talk about, it's absolutely in need of discussion, acknowledgement and visibility (and if you have C-PTSD, anxiety, BPD, antisocial personality disorder, etc. and any other cluster B personality disorder and deal with any trauma based behaviors, this is for you). (Now this flag is somewhat self indulgent but mostly personal as I myself deal with the very things I described, from C-PTSD, gynophobia, antisocial personality disorder, BPD, severe anger, trust, rage and vulnerability issues, etc. and other cluster B personality disorders, trauma from abuse, bullying, possessive/domineering/controlling/emotionally, mentally and verbally abusive behavior from women and constantly dealing with misandrist femcel mean girl bullies online and watching them + abusive female friendships be normalized, rationalized, excused and/or rewarded are all very daunting things to deal with and have all left some really deep mental, psychological and emotional wounds that have in turn put a huge dent in my view of female friendships that I have to unpack. (Sorry for the super long dissertation!)

Hyperfemme Intersex Woman + Black Hyperfemme Intersex Woman

These flags are pretty self explanatory--for intersex women/femmes who are feminine in presentation, identity and expression and are also are hyperfeminine, and this flag is definitely for intersex women/femmes who actively embrace hyperfeminine expression as a way to reclaim our right to claim, explore and express our womanhood and femininity in our own way in a society that tries to dictate, police and/or outright erase it. The second flag on the right is for black hyperfemme intersex women/femmes.

NLOG Pride Flag / NLOG (Not Like Other Girls) (reclaimed)

Pretty much a pride flag to reclaim the term NLOG (not like other girls) to combat the growing trend of "feminist" spaces pushing the over-normalized notion of insisting that women/femmes should "be like other girls in order to be unified", something I strongly disagree with as it's a slippery slope to forced social conformity to lump all women/femmes into a monolith that in turn infringes on women/femmes' right to freedom of expression, independence, autonomy and individuality. Sure we shouldn't put others down to pump ourselves up, which is something else that I also disagree with. But it's important to have some grounded nuance in embracing and celebrating shared commonalities and uplifting each other while also still honoring, accepting and respecting each other's differences. Hence, the creation of this flag!

Angry Rebellious NLOG / Scythe Feminae

Similar to the reclaimed NLOG flag but this time for NLOGs that are staunchly and proudly anti-misandry. The NLOGs that are staunchly anti femcel. The NLOGs that love to trigger and tick all the misandrist femcels off, irritate/annoy them or make them crashout, or cry. This also overlaps with the Angry Rebellious Man Lover / Mean Pick Me / Gynophobia Afflicted Traumapunk flag. In fact, the word "feminae" comes from the word horror feminae which is the original rare Latin term for gynophobia, so it's also a traumapunk flag on its own.

Androphobia Flags

Gynephobia (gynephobe, gynephobic, gynephobiac, ginephobia, ginefobia), gynophobia (gynophobiac, gynophobic, gynophobe, ginophobia, ginofobia), gynecophobia (gynecophobic, gynecophobiac, gynecophobe), gynaecophobia (gynaecophobe, gynaecophobiac, gynaecophobic, gynæcophobia, gynæcophobic, gynæcophobiac, gynæcophobe) or phobogyny (phobogynist, phobogyne, phobogynic, or phobogynous): fear of women.

Androphobia (androphobic, androphobe, androphobiac) or phobandry (phobandrous, phobandre, phobandric, or phobandrist): fear of men.