I don’t judge them, because I know that we live in a society that places value on a  womans fertility, youth and beauty. We live in a society where the Kevin Harts get richer and magically change wives that doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Men low-key are uncomfortable with being held to the same scrutiny that women are held for beauty when it comes to money because most men are not rich and the reality is in the animal kingdom is that females typically do the choosing, Humans women get chose, we have patriarchy to thank for that.. and the truth is monogamy is that monogamy is even made to benefit men, the truth is polyandry and polygamy benefits women, polyandry benefits women outside the context of patriarchy. Polygamy benefits women because then the Kobe Bryants of the world get to have multiple wives and concubines and all of the women get a man. The issue is broke men don't get women, so monogamy is the way that we can insure that average joe's get to get married too.