#gnchet

Idk like, I've been through the tags for a bit and it all fits now.

I see the vision. What have you.

In life, I was straight or the default when young. At 14 I thought that nearly kissing a girl on the mouth accidentally meant I am bi.

So I went with it for all of high school and into college.

And then at some point for like 3 years I identified as a lesbian. Out of nowhere and uncalled for really.

I thought wanting to be friends with a woman classmate meant I also want to date her. Spoiler: nope, that's not what that was.

But then I remembered about the crushes on men from my past, especially the latest one. That one was unavoidable because it was so powerful it almost wrecked me.

So I said bi.

But then maybe ace? After all I haven't fucked anyone yet, not even as much as a kiss all throughout my life. 32 years of nothing.

Eventually I admitted to myself that I was straight. Do you know when that happened? Tonight, like 10 minutes ago.

I read some posts on here and came to my own conclusions.

I used to say "when will I find a girlfriend?" but in reality not feeling it. I used to do a lot of things to imply that maybe I will meet my "future wife" somewhere and be happy.

But happiness is fickle if it's not searched for in places that actually are for you.

I never felt at home in the lesbian or bisexual or even asexual communities because I was not one of them.

I literally went into Tumblr tonight with the blog url "ace-virago" only to change it to "virago-knight" because for once I understood that life and sexuality are simple.

You just like who you like. Easy right?

Easy enough if you think clearly. But as someone who was self shaming myself out of my straightness, it wasn't simple at all.

The "if I'm straight I won't have a community anymore" sat heavy on me and that's only because I never really thought I was like all the other straight people... Shall I call them mainstraight?

I just was... Different. Throughout my life I couldn't fit in because I was GNC. GNC enough that people would think I'm gay or bi. But I was not. I just liked men a lot in ways that defied the hetnorm way of doing things.

But now. What is going to happen? I'm scared to date because I don't want PIV sex. If there's any penetration going on it's either going to be oral sex... Gentle... Or anal (pegging).

But if I come with this proposition to mainstraight guys they'll laugh me out of the bedroom. Or worse. Force me in some way or another.

So all this to say. I'm straight and virago. Every label comes with its downsides... But this describes me a lot. It just fits.

Watch me change it again in a few weeks because all I ever do is change labels but not myself as a person.

I will still:

- want to date men

- want to peg men

- want to spoil men rotten

- want to protect my man

- like long hair in men

- be GNC while doing this

It's just... So alienating to find out you're straight but not like the other straights. Because it's not talked about. Not as much as everyone else.

An Exile Amid Humanity (人间流放者)

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Description Exile No. 239: thirty-something, male omega, first degree felon. One day, he comes home to find the alpha girl Yasha sleeping in his bed. The unwholesome love story of a bashful tyrant girl and a listless young man.

being a butch woman/girl that is straight/hetero can also be called butchstraight or straightbutch

Im tryna cook up a umbrella for role reversal to go under , while making a flag and stuff cuz i think about it on and off

So far im thinking RNC (role non comformity) with other terms apart from reversal to go with it

Role Rebellious (or anarchy??) : a complete disregard of traditional gender roles - and tends to want to do anything

Role Blender : a mixer of traditional and reversed roles to make their own unique roles

(These two tend to be really similiar tho, tryna work on sperating them a bit)

Role Avoidant : doesnt want any type of roles and tends to avoid/not think of em

Roleflux: flip flops between traditional , rebellious, blending , and reversed roles

It started off as a joke... but I don't think it's a joke anymore.

I genuinely just started this off as a cute little project because I wanted to make at least one society where the men where subjugated like how woman are just explore themes of sexuality and kink, and wow.

Now I understand why people love dystopian society so much, It's so fun not gonna lie. Making a dystopian society is a lot easier than making a utopian one that's for sure. Or a Utopia adjacent society because in the current Omegaverse world building that I am doing right now where omega's are not at the bottom of the hierarchy, and they aren't treated like trash, this alien dystopian society is definitely a lot easier to think about, and world build for.

Not only that but it is so easy to take biology, and politicize it, and make one gender out to be biologically inferior. Like it's so easy to do that with men it's actually shocking. All you have to do is take the stuff that men say about women and just flip it back on to them, and it actually holds weight it's genuinely crazy.

This community has potential to walk very thin lines with in regards to sexuality and gender. We've clashed indirectly through anons, targeted posting and mixed messaging in and out of DMs. (I will say this is not completely targeted, just serving as a PSA to those who hold certain beliefs)

As GNC people, we need healthier discussions on boundaries of identity. If uncareful, we'd stray too far from the queer activists who came before us.

It shouldn't be standard to call a trans woman a mollis and misgender her, as it is missing the point of Gender-Non-Conformity as a policital movement and education. Transness as a concept is uniquely looked down upon, abandoning all traces of your AGAB limits you in society. The same isn't said for GNC people, we are certainly privileged in that regard based off of being cisgender.