Neptune in Pisces retrospective - The situationship has sailed ⛵️
If you have had any contact with social media, been in the dating scene at all in the last 10 years, have friends who have been single you would have no doubt had them crying in your DMs or been the one doing the crying.
You may have been absolutely distraught over someone you were with for 4 months, never left the house with and someone who you don’t even know how you became attracted to in first place.
Welcome to the shared delulu world of Neptune in Pisces. Neptune first made its way into Pisces on April 4th 2011, it retrograded back to Aquarius on August 4th 2011 and finally on February 3rd 2012 started shaping our experience.
I’m going to focus in on the way that Neptune as a higher octave of Venus has shaped our relationships & our values on a collective level.
To understand how Neptune influenced us let us discuss what Neptune rules: Dreams, illusions, the ocean, delusions, cameras, mirrors, images, infatuation, the collective unconscious, escapism, blurring or removing of boundaries, direct spiritual connection, the divine, the unseen, romanticism, vision.
While in domicile in Pisces we have experienced a generational imprint, a collective dream / nightmare landscape on the front of love and romance.
On September 12th 2012, Tinder was born. An easy access fantasy world where a smorgasbord of singles was at your swiping mercy. Funny side note that a running joke, was that all the men hold fish in their photos. Fish being the sign of Pisces of course. Tinder opened up a new world of dating. People were catfished by old photos, people not looking for relationships as they said they were, manipulation, and disappointment and disillusionment followed.
An epidemic of “fuck boys” emerged. The term “fuck boy” was dubbed the American Dialect Society's most outrageous word of the year in 2015So something is going on here. Women are getting the raw deal. They aren’t getting the commitment they want and it’s not an isolated experience.
In 2018 a psychologist called Dr Ramani started posting on YouTube. Her content: Narcissism and Relationships. Her following on YouTube today is almost at 2 Million.
Searches for "narcissism" on Google have been trending upwards, with Google search data indicating it's among the most searched-for terms in the U.S., according to a Daily Press article.
Why is this? Why is this such a collective experience?
The myth of Narcissus is such a Neptunian one. The reflection, the infatuation, drowning in one’s own image. It wouldn’t be a Neptune in Pisces transit without the amplification of this archetype.
According to Google, about 5% of people are narcissistic or narcissists. This doesn’t account for the overwhelming experience of people in romantic relationships during the Neptune in Pisces transit. In 2017 the term Situationship was first coined. However it came to greater social prevalence on the social media platforms TikTok and Instagram. The subject of manic girls and lonely boys memes everywhere from 2022 and is still being used now. Delusional and Delulu also newly cemented favourites in the collective vernacular of Millennials to Zoomers.
Further evidence into this generational attachment disorder the collective have suddenly developed. The book “Attached” first published in 2010 shoots to best seller status in 2021. In the words of the New York Times bestseller list it “suddenly exploded out of nowhere”
YouTube, Instagram and TikTok creators of varying qualifications were all spouting the same thing: Avoidant - Anxious.
Now everyone who has a smartphone is a pop psychologist and armchair diagnosing each other. My avoidant this, no contact that. “How to go no contact to win him back, hoovering, being caught in a toxic cycle, is he a narcissist?”
There were certainly some fated and karmic relationships happening between July 2023 and April 2025. Saturn joined the party in March 2023 adding karmic weight and pressure and the self / other axis of Aries and Libra in the North and South Nodes respectively created some lighter fluid on the fire.
Much love and respect to anyone trying to relate during this time. It’s been insanely difficult. One thing that Pisces and Neptune can teach us is we can go deep. So deep that we don’t know where we begin and the other ends. We can love another to self sacrifice and self detriment. We can blend and merge and die a thousand deaths for someone we don’t really know but somehow do. They are us but aren’t. In Pisces we lose our sovereignty. We merge and we pledge ourselves in faith. Blind faith with no evidence. And we do it again and again.
At the end of this when the north node joined Saturn it asked us to stop. Prepare. We are separating. We are not dissolving. There is a new path. A path of devotion to self. Devotion to the physical. Devotion to pure love. No egotistical love. We begin to value the The tangible and the actionable. I’m hearing phases like “Love is a Verb” heralding the shift.
As Neptune moves into Aries, Venus guides with softness and new hope. A hope of new self love, discovery and personal empowerment. We will not be merged again in codependency. We can safely couple again without blending and bleeding into one another. Love is an action now. We must see it to believe it.
Much love to those who have been through the chaos and pain. I hope Pisces also offered you healing ❤️‍🩹
