Man I think ppl need to understand that shit is a spectrum. Yes even with allosexuals. “Oh it’s so easy for allos they know the difference between an intense friendship and a crush” uhhhh before I had really known I was bisexual I had a best friend and we were mutually obsessed with each other to an unhealthy degree and made out on several occasions and I still didn’t understand that I was basically in love with her.
“Oh allos know immediately that they are attracted to someone and they want to fuck them wouldn’t that be nice” where are you getting your information from? sometimes you see a person running down the street or a very cool barista with a nice smile and you’re like wow hot. And then other times you’re friends with someone and don’t really feel that instant pull but as you get to know them something happens and you become attracted.
It’s all a spectrum and even more so if you’re queer. and I think ppl can and should make an effort to understand that from all sides of the ace/allo spectrum. because sometimes the whole “oh allo ppl only think in terms of fucking/not fucking, how odd” is 1) devoid of any complexity and 2) has an overtone of disgust that especially with queer relationships can seem uncomfortably close to how rightwing bigots talk about queer relationships.
All that to say can I get some fuckin nuance in the chat pls.
