#freely given

Therefore He who supplies the Spirit to you and works miracles among you, does He do it by the works of the law, or by the hearing of faith? Galatians 3:5 Every job that a person works requires some type of work by the person in order to get paid. If a person does not work, the person will not get paid. Getting paid without working is gift that is not earned. Although people love gifts, most…

UNDERSTANDING CONSENT

Consent is....

An agreement between individuals to engage in sexual activity. It requires ongoing communication about boundaries and what each person is comfortable with.

There are 5 core elements of consent- that it is freely given, reversible, informed, enthusiastic and specific.

Reversible:

You are allowed at anytime during a sexual experience to change your mind about what you want to do and what you are okay with.

It doesn't matter if you have done it before or if you have already started. You are always allowed to change your mind.

Specific:

Consent requires being specific about what you are asking and what your expectations are.

Its important to re-establish consent for all changes or escalations of sexual activity. Giving consent to one thing is not consent to anything else, and consent given in the past is not the same as consenting to something in the moment.

Freely Given

Consenting is a choice you make without pressure, manipulation, coercion, or under the influence of alcohol or drugs.

Freely given consent means there is real choice and nothing trying to convince you to say "YES" when you really want to say "NO."

Enthusiastic:

If you are consenting to sex, it should be because you want to!

Instead of looking for the absence of a "NO," enthusiastic consent focuses on looking for the "YES!" and other positive affirmations to signal comfort and enjoyment. Checking in often with your partner creates space for more enthusiastic consent!

Informed:

All must be equally informed in understanding what is going on or about to happen. You cant consent to something you don't have all the accurate information about!

I sense @kiraziwrites in this question, in spirit of not in actuality.

That story is truly always in the back of my mind and I do want to write it eventually. It’s getting in the mindset to write smut that is a hit-or-miss situation for me and I can’t force it. All I can say is that I *have not* forgotten about the prequel/sequel, some of the scenes I’ve imagined leave me very... 🥵. Is it weird that I want to present something that makes you feel the same way?

Charles Spurgeon’s MORNING AND EVENING: MARCH 1

MORNING “With lovingkindness have I drawn thee.” Jeremiah 31:3 The thunders of the law and the terrors of judgment are all used to bring us to Christ; but the final victory is effected by lovingkindness. The prodigal set out to his father’s house from a sense of need; but his father saw him a great way off, and ran to meet him; so that the last steps he took towards his father’s house were with…

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I do have headcanons and I am more than happy to share some of them. Thank you for asking!

(I lived in this fic for months and I still have some ideas regarding it, so some of this may be mentioned in a future installment.)

My thoughts are that Brienne and Jaime don’t officially live together for a while yet, that their home - with Pod and Margaery, Salmon, Tiger and two newly adopted cockatiels named Pelican and Puffin - is a combination of the two apartments that everyone is frequently trekking back and forth between. It’s like one big home that happens to have a corridor in the middle.

They will eventually build an actual house, close to the shore, after the next kid is born and before Pod turns... lets say six. They still keep the apartment so they have somewhere to stay when they need to be in KL and Margaery remains in the other. I still haven’t decided which Stark she hooks up with, but it’s definitely either Robb or Sansa. (Tyrion and Arianne are on/off for years, but that works for them.)

Jaime and Brienne definitely get married and their next time, quite unfortunately for Brienne, is yet another boy. She can’t seemed to catch a break on that front. I’ve already named him Duncan in my head and he is as loud as Pod is quiet, impulsive just like his dad and has his mom’s scowl, which he deploys whenever he doesn’t get his way. Jaime thinks it’s hilariously adorable but is ever swayed. Duncan worships Tommen, who in turn nicknamed him Duck, because he’s always following after his older cousin. The name eventually gets picked up by everyone.

Jaime is still obsessed with cooking and has started eyeing an application for the Great Westerosi Bake Off. Brienne is already groaning over the fandom he will surely incite if he gets on the show.