#fm talks

People ask you about your medical history at random and sometimes without even a cursory greeting

People target you because they know you (presumably) can’t fight back

People treat you as both more or less capable than you actually are (whichever is more ableist)

Infrastructure is not accessible in many ways and even hostile at times (impacting those with blindness, deafness, mobility aid users, and more)

Your rides from apps get canceled due to your disability equipment

People get grossed out by what keeps you alive (ostomies, tubes, ports, etc)

People grabbing and moving you without consent

Being treated like furniture the more you are perceived to be disabled

It’s easier and less acutely painful to just coast and not actively work on ‘getting better’. Is the work worth it? I don’t know yet.

Using a wheelchair does not mean you are suddenly listened to by doctors or teachers, have people tripping over themselves to make sure all of your access needs met, or whatever reason you think a wheelchair is better and something to be jealous of.

TL;DR-

Some disabled people are worse off than others

All disabled people are valid in their struggles

Invisible disabilities and Visible disabilities have similar yet different struggles

My dad brought me to Utah thinking his family would help but my grandmother is transphobic and refused to let me stay for long enough to get on my feet. The rest of my family has sided with her.

I am a semi-ambulatory wheelchair user with an ileostomy and TBI so managing carrying all my medical stuff plus survival supplies is a chore.

I am currently broke and needing supplies that will help me at the shelter and managing getting around. I’ve also since lost my push rims in my various moves around.

If you are in a position to help financially I have an Amazon wishlist that ships to my sister’s house where she can hold onto stuff for me.

If you want to donate cash:

Cash App: $queerglowcloud

Another woman’s face is leaving this planet!!