#flush advice

My boss, an indigo, is CLEARLY GAY, but I just found out that he has a matesprit??? The most beautiful rust EVER, who is way too pretty to be stuck with a jerk like him! I'm not homophobic, he sucks for issues besides being gay, but he does suck a lot. I think she deserves better than a jackwagon who uses her to beard, and especially THAT one. How can I convince her to leave him?

{Alright, hold on. Firstly - did he tell you he was gay? Secondly, how did you come to know this information? And thirdly, do you really think this is your business?}

{Assuming you know for sure that he is gay and that he is not attracted to her but is, for whatever reason, leading her on, then under that circumstance I could understand. However, I want to know exactly how you know this, and what about it is entirely so obvious to you, because if he hasn't even introduced you to his matesprit, I don't see how he'd tell you his sexuality.}

{My personal theory is that he realized he was bisexual, or they have an agreement, or some other thing.}

{Oh dear. That's quite a situation, anon... Naturally, as an bronze, you must be feeling very upset about not being able to get them to play nice with each other. However, a rust and an indigo fighting is... Really to be expected! The do-it-yourself attitude of a rust lends towards dirty hands, and the respectable higher brow of an indigo does not approve of dirty fingerprints. It's to be expected, but that doesn't mean you're expected to tolerate things that are having a negative impact on you mentally. Especially from people meant to make your life better!}

{Unfortunately, it really doesn't come down to you to decide if they get on or loathe each other. All you can do is ask them to respect your boundaries by not picking at each other around you.}

{As for choosing: you shouldn't have to. Plain and simple.}

{Quadrants should not make you feel like you're fighting to have even a moment of stability and peace between the people you care about, regardless of why. They should be complex and bring a range of emotions, but not make you miserable every time they spot each other across the room.}

{Ooooh! This is really sweet. Indigo-rust relationships can be more than a bit dicey, anon, so take heed. Personally, I would suggest imagining a scene where the two of you go on a flush date. How does it differ from your pale dates? And how does it make you feel? If you find yourself veering towards paler vibes, it's probably not a red situation. But if you start getting flutterbeasts in your stomach... There might be something there!}