#feedee wanted

This is addressed to the gatekeepers of the feedist community and to the stalkers and doxxers:

Please Stop

I will not claim that I'm fully aware of every issue going on with the current discourse, let's be clear on that. The feedist community is not a community that needs purity testing. This is a kink that can operate just fine on its own, but can also enhance the experiences of plenty of other kinks when paired together as well. In the end, we're all ADULT HUMAN BEINGS perfectly capable of making our own decisions. The loudest voices in the room do not always mean that what they say is right. Your actions in generating so much drama and hate regarding certain practices, people, and an overinflated sense of righteousness does more harm in terms of collateral damage than you may account for. Are you:

Constantly harassing people by abusing the anon ask system to send them non-stop hate? Sure, they might leave the platform which might be your end goal, but what you also do is push the people that interacted with them off the platform as well. There are plenty of people here that have made friends, found lifelong partners, or even found groups with common interests. Your actions push all of them away

Reporting the accounts of people falsely to Tumblr moderation because you don't like them? Constant false flags like that will not only make them more aware of this community than it already is, but it will also in turn impact us negatively when AI is fully on board to monitor for things like this. This puts the entire community as a whole in jeopardy.

And lastly, are you:

Doxxing people on this platform? If so, for what reason? I genuinely want to understand the logic behind that. Did someone really make you that "big mad" that you felt it necessary to dig up their personal information and try to ruin their lives while you sit behind a screen in anonymity without any accountability for yourself? If you went down this route and you feel absolutely no remorse for the harm you're causing, then you need to seek therapy, because this is in no way how a normal person should process their feelings.

Stalking people because you feel that with enough interaction you somehow can change that person's mind and have them let you enter their lives? I do not know how you were raised, but "NO" means "NO". Doesn't matter if it was said directly to your face, indirectly or passively (whether you understood the message or not). A NO does not mean "no, not right now" or "no, maybe later" or "no, but I'll think about it". People have the right to deny and refuse anyone or anything they do not want to partake in. If that's something you can't understand or are just that narcissistic that you believe you can change the hearts and minds of anyone you interact with, then I also suggest that you seek therapy.

In the long run, these actions will lead to the eventual dissolution of the community on this platform, whether it's by staff, or by the community as a whole. If you can't see that your singularly focused actions affect more than you and the person you have beef with, then I can only hope that with enough self policing and vigilance from within the community that we can "clean up our own messes", even though these messes were started by people who can't see the forest for the trees. I'll do what I can to be an advocate, but I know this is an issue that requires all of us to get together to sort it all out.

For the TL;DR people and for the people this is directed at: