#fandom respect

🤍 I’m tired.

I’m tired of being targeted because people assume everything I write comes from AI and not from me.

I’m Italian. English is not my native language. I don’t speak or write it perfectly—and I never claimed to. I write my thoughts in Italian, my own words, my own ideas… and then I use AI to translate them so I can share them with more people.

Is that really something to be judged or mocked for?

Because let me ask you this: would you be able to express yourself flawlessly in Italian without any help?

If you can—honestly, I admire you. Truly. 👏 But if not… then maybe you understand why I do what I do.

If translating my thoughts so I can be understood bothers you that much, I can just go back to writing only in Italian. But tell me—how is it fair to judge or insult someone for not speaking a language perfectly?

Second point: the “Buddie” topic.

I see them as a bromance. That’s it.

And here’s the thing: even though my Tumblr, IG, and feeds are FULL of Buddie content, I do not go under people’s posts to mock them, insult them, or invalidate their interpretations. Never.

I have a different opinion, and I express it respectfully. I thought that in a free space, it was okay to think differently—especially when you’re not attacking anyone else’s view.

If someone disagrees with me, they are more than free to: 👉 ignore me 👉 or share their perspective in a civil way

That’s how discussions work. There are always different perspectives, and everyone chooses the one they connect with.

But here’s what I don’t understand: if 98% of the fandom thinks one way… why does the remaining 2% have to stay silent?

Why can’t we simply coexist as two parts of the same fandom, loving the same show, even if we see things differently?

Because honestly?

I’m tired of being treated poorly by people who claim to stand for equality and inclusivity… and then do the exact opposite.

And no—I’m not generalizing. I know very well that this is just a small part of the fandom. Most people are kind, respectful, and thoughtful 🤍

But those few? They still hurt me.

Yes, I deleted their comments. But I still received them. And words… words can hurt more than anything else.

I’ve experienced bullying before. Real bullying. To the point where it affected me deeply.

And I won’t let anyone have that kind of power over me again. Not now. Not ever.

So please—

Let’s not turn something beautiful, like the love we all share for this show, into something that goes against everything it stands for.

We can love the same story… and still see it differently.

Hi everyone. I want to talk openly and honestly for a moment, because some things have been said about me that simply aren’t true, and it’s been really upsetting to see people assume things about me without actually getting to know me. I’ve recently been accused of being a proshipper, and even told by someone the reason why no one is talking to me and treating me horribly is because people believes I'm this user Penmar, and I need to say clearly that

this is not who I am.

I am not that person. I do not behave like that, and I never have.

I want to explain who I really am, because if people had taken the time to talk to me instead of assuming things, they would know this already. First, I want to make something very clear

I do not take other people’s OCs and write stories about them without permission. I respect the work and creativity people put into their characters. I know how personal OCs can be, because I feel the same way about mine. I especially would never write anything grotesque, inappropriate, or disturbing about someone else's character. That goes completely against the kind of person I am and the kind of space I try to create.

If you had actually gotten to know me, you would know that I am a kind, respectful, and safe person in fandom spaces. I try to be someone who listens to others, respects boundaries, and supports creativity rather than tearing it down. I’m not here to hurt anyone or make people uncomfortable. I’m here because I love stories, creativity, and connecting with people who enjoy the same magical worlds. I’ve also seen people assume that I’m obsessed with talking to one specific person, which honestly doesn’t make sense either. I have friendships where we sometimes don’t talk for months at a time, and that’s completely normal to me. Life gets busy, people drift in and out of conversations, and that doesn’t mean anyone is obsessed with anyone. I don’t cling to people or demand constant attention. I respect when people need space, and I understand that friendships don’t have to be constant communication to still matter.

What hurts the most about all of this is that no one came to me first.

No one asked me questions.

No one tried to understand me.

People just assumed things about me and talked about me instead. That’s honestly exhausting and really discouraging. I’m very tired of being judged based on rumors or misunderstandings instead of who I actually am. If people had simply taken the time to talk to me, they would have learned a lot about me as a person.

For example I’m someone who genuinely loves simple, comforting hobbies and peaceful moments in life.

I love baking and cooking. The smell of cookies in the oven or bread baking in the kitchen is one of my favorite things in the world. I love trying new recipes and sharing food with people I care about.

I love gardening and caring for plants. Watching something grow because you nurtured it is a quiet kind of magic.

I enjoy reading, writing, and journaling. Stories are a huge part of how I process emotions and explore ideas.

I love music that sparks imagination and emotion. Sometimes a song makes me imagine entire scenes or stories.

I enjoy cozy spaces candles, warm drinks, blankets, rainy afternoons, and quiet moments to think or write.

These are the kinds of things that make me happy. As a person, I try to be warm, kind, and understanding. I care about people’s feelings and I try to be someone who creates a safe and welcoming environment I’ve also had my own struggles in life. I know what it feels like to be ignored, left out, or abandoned, and those experiences have made me more compassionate. I try to treat people the way I wish I had always been treated with patience, kindness, and respect. That’s the kind of person I try to be online too. I want my blog to be a safe space where people can share ideas, creativity, stories, and imagination without fear of being mocked or attacked. I want people to feel like they can talk about their OCs, their writing, their interests, or even just their day without being judged. This is also why I care so deeply about my own OC and the stories I create.

My OC is something I’ve put a lot of heart into. Creating stories and ideas for them is something that makes me happy and helps me express my creativity. I love imagining how they would interact with the world of Reverse Enchancia, what friendships they would form, and what little adventures or emotional moments they might experience. But my OC is also personal to me, which is why I would never disrespect someone else’s character the way I’ve been accused of doing. I know how much that would hurt someone. At the end of the day, I’m just a person who enjoys creativity, storytelling, cozy hobbies, and connecting with people who share similar interests.

I’m not here to cause drama.

I’m not here to hurt anyone.

I’m not here to harass or obsess over people.

I’m here because I love imagination, magical worlds, and the joy of creating stories. If anyone ever has concerns about me, I truly wish they would come talk to me directly instead of assuming the worst. Communication solves misunderstandings. Silence and rumors only make things worse Please remember that there is a real person behind this blog. I have feelings, I have hobbies, I have struggles, and I’m just trying to share the things that make me happy.

Thank you to anyone who took the time to read this and understand where I’m coming from.

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What I’ve seen in this fandom the little I've seen because of a rude user is people pushing a toxic ship—Cedfia (Cedric and Amber)—and then expecting everyone to just accept it like it’s normal. Let’s be clear: this ship is not acceptable in the *Sofia the First* Fandom. It’s not something that can be justified or made “okay” with art, fanfiction, or any other medium. The age gap between Cedric and Amber makes this ship deeply inappropriate and borderline pedophilic, and the fact that some people continue to push it as though it’s harmless is concerning.

This isn’t about differing opinions on harmless ships or playful fan theories. This is about a clear line that has been crossed, and this fandom does not want to see or engage with content that romanticizes harmful relationships. It’s not up for debate. No matter how many fanfics or fanarts are made, it does not change the fact that *Cedfia* is not accepted or wanted here.

The reality is that the *Sofia the First* fandom does not want this ship, and anyone who continues to push it is disrespecting the community’s boundaries. People are blocking, muting, and reporting because this ship makes fans uncomfortable and goes against what the majority of the fandom stands for. You can’t expect to push a toxic pairing and then act surprised when people don’t want it in their spaces. It’s not just about “personal preferences”; it’s about creating a safe, respectful environment for all fans.

So, to anyone still trying to make Cedfia a thing: please respect the fact that the *Sofia the First* Fandom does not want this ship here. People are entitled to their boundaries, and pushing this toxic ship is not going to make it accepted. Let’s keep this space respectful and enjoyable. Period.

Just saw someone call Xina an alcoholic to hate on her and they purposely used the Xina Kwan tag causing Xina fans to see it😐. Literally are you trying to get attacked by her fans. what happened to fandom respect and etiquette. Mind you most Xina fans are autistic a lot of us have hyperfixations/special interests relating to her so it’s extra nasty because it hurts on an emotional level to alot of people

So I remember when I was first getting into fandoms as a teenager. I was considered something of a curiosity by the members of the fandoms I was getting into in those days. See, in those days fandom was an adult space primarily. 

Unlike today's kiddos, when I was getting into fandom I didn’t try and force my views, my likes, my opinions onto the fandoms. If something wasn’t for my age bracket, I didn’t go to it, end of discussion, adult topics were for adults. I didn’t try and make the people in those spaces tone down what they wrote about, drew, etc, it was their right. 

But, I learned from my fandom mothers and aunties and uncles. I learned to appreciate the difference between canon and fanon. I learned to accept that YKINMK (your kink is not my kink) and that that was okay. I learned to accept that while I may ship something, not everyone does and that is fine. I learned that things that turned me off might be someone else’s jam, and to avoid that. I learned to properly tag stuff so that I that people who wanted to see my stuff could and people who didn’t want to didn’t have to. I learned fandom respect.

I grew as a person because of the encouragement I received from my fandom elders. I grew to appreciate the subtle nuances in the works I partook of. I learned to just let myself enjoy things.

I didn’t need to have my ship(s) canon to enjoy them. 

I could enjoy “problematic” characters/ships/stories and not have it effect my real life.

I could coexist with people who had the opposite views on characters/ships/etc because when it came down to it we could agree that we both enjoyed the thing.

It wasn’t a big political, social thing to enjoy what we enjoyed. It was just about entertainment.

Sometimes I think with how “progressive” people have gotten they’ve grown more closed-minded and repressed. 

We need to address an ongoing issue in our community. A user has been repeatedly posting artwork that isn’t theirs, without crediting the original artists. Stealing and reposting art without permission disrespects the hard work and creativity of the original creators.

🔹 Why is this a problem?

Artists put time and effort into their work, and reposting without credit takes away from their recognition.

Some artists rely on their work for income, and stolen art can harm their livelihood.

It creates a dishonest space in our fandom, which should be a place of respect and appreciation.

🔹 How can we help?

✔️ Support original artists – Like, share, and follow the real creators.

✔️ Report art theft – If you see stolen artwork, report the post and inform the artist.

✔️ Educate others – Spread awareness so our fandom stays a respectful and safe space for everyone.

Second, what's wrong with being a proshipper?