#fan behaviour

Criticism, more often than not, doesn't come from a place of hate. It comes from a place of concern, or love, or admiration. A critique gives a chance to improve, its not needlessly cruel or spiteful. Its a way of saying "I've identified this issue, if it was corrected this situation/ project would be better which is good for you." Does that seem hateful?

I dont hate Annabelle Wallis. I dont like her, I think shes childish and brash and a terrible actress, but I dont hate her. When I criticise her public behaviour in regards to her relationship with Sebastian, Im not hating her, nor am I jealous. I'm not body shaming, I'm not talking about her appearance or cosmetic surgery, shit I dont even talk about her acting. I specifically point out the problematic things she does publicly. Thats not hate, thats valid criticism.

When I talk about Sebastians shitty PR I'm not doing it from a place of hate. I was in the fandom. I love his acting. Hes incredibly talented. That's the problem, his PR and his team is fucking his career. I criticise his poor choices and problematic behaviour and frankly depressing relationship. Because its literally impacting his work, and from the look of it his mental health.

Let me give you an example of someone who is ostensibly a fan of Sebastians. I cant find the video but I'll explain it. They meet Sebastian, and during the encounter, tell him while laughing that fans call him or joke about him having a five head. Ha. Ha. Very funny. Jokes about his appearance. On the whole that wasnt treated like hate, even though its incredibly cruel and unkind, because they're the "right" kind of fans. But I, or many others, talk about how bad it looks that he drags Annabelle around or doesn't even look like he likes her, and we are haters.

Make it make sense. Only one example mocked appearance and was cruel. And theyre not the haters 🤦‍♀️

You dont get bonus fan points for never holding a celebrity accountable for their actions, or for praising everything they do, or for never criticising them. You dont win a prize, youre not better than people who point out issues and wish for improvements. In fact, Id go so far as to say you're worse. Because noone needs a bunch of yes man sycophants that put them on a pedestal. That's terrible. That's how Trump became who he is. People need nuance, and grounding, and constructive criticism. Not hate, not bullying, not cruelty, I want to be very clear about that. Not extremes. A sensible, helpful middle ground.

If you view all criticism as hate, you need to sit down and really think about why. And also why the words of strangers about another stranger, that aren't harmful, cause you to lash out. Because thats a problem you should probably deal with sooner rather than later.