How do you deal with this overwhelming fear and disgusting feeling of not only being in the wrong body yet being told I am not sapphic ? I'm a Trans woman, and TERFS make me Shrivle up and die. I'm not saying everyone needs to like penis, of course not. But I feel awful having one, it doesn't make me feel sapphic, it makes me feel male and dysphoric. How do you feel good about yourself when TERFS have convinced you are nothing more then a man in a cheap dress and wig? This is eating me alive.
I’m cis, so I’ll never truly be able to understand how difficult and painful it must be to deal not only with the rejection of straight people, but also cis gay people as well. I know a few things for this website in particular that will probably help (at least a little bit)
1) Block TERFs on sight. They aren’t interested in having a conversation with you, they’re just interested in hurting you, and since you can’t block people in real life, you might as well block as many as you can online so that you don’t have to see them.
2) Make sure all the sapphic blogs you follow are 100% trans-inclusive AND trans-positive. There are plenty of sapphic blogs that will SAY trans women are welcome but won’t make an effort to actually be allies to trans sapphic women and won’t make an effort to get rid of transphobia in the wlw community
3) and probably most important, seek out other trans wlw to surround yourself with, even if just online. Isolation can be a devastating thing, and it can amplify pain and insecurity. A good blog for trans wlw positivity is @transwlw and one for trans women positivity is @transgirlspositivity. There’s also @transgirlsarebeautiful where trans girls and transfeminine nb people submit selfies (warning: there’s lots of cute girls so u have been warned!!). If you’d like I can make a post asking trans girls to like/reblog so yall can find each other!
If anyone else (namely, if any trans women who have experience with dealing with transphobia) has any advice or any other blog recommendations (since I’m sure I’ve missed plenty of great blogs) please feel free to share!
