The moment book Aemond took Harrenhal was the beginning of his downfall. He was for sure proud, power hungry and thirsted for glory before. He was a raging misogynist with a violent streak as well. But in the Riverlands, he spiralled into madness. His campaign was a disaster. As if someone was messing with his brain.
The theory that Aemond's Harrenhal arc "humanises" him because he found his only love there doesn't sound convincing to me. Funnily enough, alysmonds often hate the Rhaegar and Lyanna arc. But when it comes to alysmond, they repeat the "love is the death of duty" like a broken record. Plus, I am not a fan of "humanizing" villains by making them terrible to everybody but their love interest because she's not like the other girls. Makes me think of real life monsters of war criminals, put on trial in Nuremberg. Many of them were loving fathers and decent husbands. They used to have positive feelings for their close ones, because they were people and not creatures of the dark from outer space. Idk how reminding me that shitty ass fictional people are still people is even supposed to make me like them.
Most of GRRMβs characters are written with the capacity for both cruelty and tenderness. That is not some unique romantic revelation. A person can love one individual and still remain arrogant, violent, selfish, or monstrous toward everyone else.
Giving a villain a woman he treats differently does not automatically humanize him in any meaningful way. Terrible people are still capable of attachment. That does not erase what they are or make their victims matter less.
So I genuinely do not know what these people are reading when they insist Harrenhal was secretly Aemondβs romantic salvation. π












