We all know it’s true, 8’s get a bad wrap for being the ones who can’t deal with their vulnerability. But the truth is, none of us are all that great at being truly vulnerable, and we just choose 9 different ways to avoid it. •• Vulnerability is vital for true intimacy. It is showing up and being deeply seen for who we really are. And that shit is waaaay harder than it sounds. Vulnerability takes practice, and that practice is often deeply uncomfortable. •• This discomfort stems from the fact that we’ve built our entire personalities around avoiding vulnerability, staying in control, and managing the pain of being a human in this world. To practice vulnerability brings us right back to that pain, but it’s here we can transform it and open our lives up to a whole to new world of possibilities. •• I almost never do type specific breakdowns anymore, but this seems appropriate: •• 1’s avoid vulnerability by always working to be right, good, or appropriate. 2’s avoid vulnerability by always being willing to help and focusing on the needs of others. 3’s avoid vulnerability by achieving goals, being seen as successful, and exemplifying the values of their culture. 4’s avoid vulnerability by being unique, special, or exceptional in some way. 5’s avoid vulnerability by gaining knowledge and working to understand. 6’s avoid vulnerability by always questioning, and brokering certainty. 7’s avoid vulnerability by always having a back up plan, their ability to reframe, and humor. 8’s avoid vulnerability by being strong, capable, and having an impact on the world around them. 9’s avoid vulnerability by forgetting themselves and what they need and want in situations. •• How do these resonate with you? How do you practice vulnerability? Let me know in the comments! • • • #enneagram #enneagram1 #enneagram2 #enneagram3 #enneagram4 #enneagram5 #enneagram6 #enneagram7 #enneagram8 #enneagram9 #millenneagram #spiritualgrowth #personalgrowth #enneagramcoach #queerenneagram #personalitytypes #enneagramtypes #spiritualwork #innerwork #transformation #contemplative #contemplativepractice #practice #yoga #meditation #quote #quoteoftheday #qotd #handdrawn #handlettering (at Austin, Texas) https://www.instagram.com/p/B3wh4DKFSkk/?igshid=ye685uz7nmlw

Reposted from @enneagram_relationships When communicating with your Type 8 partner, it can be quite helpful to know that 8’s can sometimes come across as angrier than they actually are.. Type 8’s generally have a strong presence- and they don’t always realise the power of that presence! So that means that they can sometimes come across as intimidating to others even when they don’t mean to 💖 Type 8’s definitely also have a soft side that they would love to share with you, and the way to support them is to keep your communication as straightforward as possible, and to not take it personally or get offended too easily if they may seem intimidating at times, and don’t be afraid to share your vulnerable side- it might encourage them to share their own vulnerability more 😅💖 #enneagram #enneagram8 #enneagramcoach https://www.instagram.com/p/CiGwMJjNhdT/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=