#eldest sibling

every oldest sister’s canon event is getting blamed for doing something wrong to your younger sibling, or them picking up a bad habit from you because apparently there is nothing else they can get that habit from, even though you didn’t get it from an older sibling.

The thing about an eldest sibling having lived in a parental role, missing out on their childhood, and wanting to let go of all that responsibility they’ve been used to and be taken care of instead is that, it’s not so simple—not that anything ever is. They want space, they want care, but most of all, they want connection, and in a way, when the younger siblings grow up and stop needing them so much, it simply feels like they’re losing that connection. Yes, probably like some parents feel seeing their kids grow up, move out, stop asking for advice or help, etc. It feels selfish asking them to care (the way they want to be cared for) because for so long, the goal has been to let them live and grow and learn the way they (the eldest sibling) never got to. It feels like being too much (as they’re often told they are). They don’t want to feel like a burden (they’ve been the ones who always took it, and they didn’t do it so they could ask for a return or a reward one day). They just don’t want to be a beggar for emotional availability.

if anyone could see the way my siblings and i act around each other they would be incredibly concerned for our sanity

who up practically begging their younger sibling to hang out like you used to