#dysfunctional parenting

#TheLargerIssue #HATE

'You mad I'm his baby mama.... B!+ch.. I'm MAD TOO!!!!'

https://www.facebook.com/dddadiva/videos/vb.279493259131954/445619352633032/

Witnessing this broadcast reminds me the late 'Childhood Trauma' (#ACEs) and Gun Violence Victim Tupac Shakur's often misinterpreted, much ignored T.H.U.G.L.I.F.E. Child Abuse, Emotional Neglect, Abandonment & Maltreatment *AWARENESS-PREVENTION* Public Service Announcement applies to American and foreign born citizens of ALL backgrounds:

T.H.U.G.L.I.F.E. - "The HATE U Give Little Infants Fvvks *EVERYONE"* ~Tupac Shakur, American Urban-TRUTH-Teller ____ Introducing Child Abuse Awareness & Education Advocate, pediatrician Dr. Nadine Burke Harris, MD, FAAP, MPH, Founder and CEO of the 'Center for Youth Wellness'. ___ "My mother was cancer, she would destroy *EVERYBODY"* ~Richard 'The Iceman' Kuklinsky, 'Childhood Trauma' (#ACEs) victim and now-deceased convicted serial murderer. ___ "I would have never been able to do this work if I had come into this world with a mother who stayed, who nurtured me in a healthy way." ~Dr. Stacey Patton, Ph.D., Professor, Author, Child Abuse & Violence Researcher ___ "I agree that SINGLE MOTHERS are DESTROYING their sons." ~Neko Cheri (YouTube Search)

"How black Women sabotage their sons" ~~Law of Polaris North Star

Paging Doctor Aphra #reflection

Paging Doctor Aphra

The original comic came out a couple years back. We’re talking back in 2015. I am referring to the Darth Vader comic published by Marvel in 2015. But this is only the lead in to what I am actually going to talk about. And to drag this out even further I am going to make an obscure and meaningless observation.

I used to collect the Star Wars comics that came out in the late 70s…

Spent the afternoon with my (now 12yr old) baby cuz.

When I tell stories about when I was her age, I filter and lie about things, so it sounds more neutral/typical.

I never EVER want her to know how bad I had it.

Point 2:

I really don't want to make my aunt my "therapist" when I talk to her, but I am really wanting to ask her:

"How do you give your kids a sense of being -okay- no matter where they are?  One of your kids has no hesitation to ask you to stay when she feels weird in a situation, while your other kid is confident enough to drive on the highway in his first years of learning....what have you said to them to help them be this way???"

But a part of me knows it's nothing she's said....it's most likely how she's raised them to believe: they can speak up when things don't seem right, they will be OK with learning complex new things, they will BE OK in general, they can visit friends and invite friends over, they are worth it, they don't need to worry or care for their parents, and they don't have to hold everything in and think they have to take care of their own problems.

It's crazy.  I had a really great day with my cuz, but I just want to ball my eyes out when I get back to my own house.

I NEVER want my kids to feel like their whole world is on their shoulders. I will do everything I possibly can.  I'll go to parenting classes and a therapist. I'll make sure they have adults (besides their parents) they can talk to about anything and trust.