Hi, my name is Ali. I was diagnosed at birth with Cystic Fibrosis, a genetic disease that affects the lungs, digestive system, reproductive system... basically your whole body. This disease causes your body to produce excessive amounts of mucous, leading to various parts of your body becoming damaged and eventually, non-functional.Â
My sister, Joan, who is two years older than me, was diagnosed several months after her birth after my parents fought to keep her healthy as her tiny body tried to survive the disease inside her. It was because of Joanieâs diagnosis that I was tested at birth and was able to have a healthier start at life.Â
Cystic Fibrosis is now one of the diseases that babies are tested for at their birth - giving more kids a stronger chance at survival.
Growing up, Joanie and I spent plenty of time with friends, our family, dogs, cats, horses, sports teams, and also far too much time in Childrenâs Hospital on IV. We knew all of the nurses names (and definitely had our favourites), we knew how to run our own IV medications, and we learned ways to keep ourselves entertained in a hospital for weeks on end.Â
I know how it felt from my point of view, but I cannot imagine the pain and struggle my Mom and Dad went through seeing their baby girls hooked up to IVs, doing hours upon hours of lung physiotherapy every day, and taking around 50 oral medications each to keep as healthy as they could.Â
In 2003, my family was torn apart by Cystic Fibrosis when it took my sisterâs life. She was 12, and I was 10. No child should ever have their life taken from them. No child should ever have to experience their lungs deteriorating until they are unable to survive. No child should have to lose their best friend and sister. No parents should have to lose a child. I will never stop missing Joanie. I will never stop loving her. My heart will never stop hurting.
I continued to grow up fighting CF without my partner in crime. I struggled with anxiety, depression, OCD, and PTSD and I still do. Everyone in my family lost part of them that day in August in 2003.Â
In my grade 12 year in High School, I had to basically drop out as my health was declining so rapidly. Myself, my family, and my then boyfriend (now husband) met with many doctors and I had to make the overwhelming and terrifying decision to go forward with a double lung transplant. After a year waiting on the transplant list, being on IV therapy more often than I was off it, doing around 5 hours of physiotherapy for my lungs daily, drinking around 5 Boost plusâ a day plus 3 meals and many snacks to attempt to keep any weight on my body, having my family push the wheelchair I now needed to sit in to move around, I received the pager notification saying I was going to get a double lung transplant.Â
After an 8 hour long surgery where I had my sternum and 4 ribs broken to replace my deteriorated lungs with beautiful working ones, a stint in the ICU, and time recovering in hospital, I had become a transplant recipient at the age of 19.
I am now over 8 years post Lung Transplant and am living my life with my wonderful husband, and my squishy little rescue dog. I am so incredibly happy, but I am also continuing to face the struggles of having CF in the rest of my body, being a transplant recipient, feeling the loss and guilt for the family of the woman whose passing gave me another chance at life, being a high risk individual for the current pandemic, struggling with depression, anxiety, ptsd, a little bit of OCD, and the feelings of overwhelming loss that will never leave me.Â
I have wanted to write about my experiences for some time now. I will keep many stories to myself as they are extremely personal, but others I would like to share, to get them off my chest while hopefully helping a few CFers on the way.
This is my life, my story.
I love to joke around, I have a bit of a dark sense of humour, and I am a very emotional individual. Some of my posts will be emotional, some will be joking around, some will be somewhere in between. I have a lot of experiences that make me happy and many others that make me angry. I may swear, I may say some rude things, I know that sometimes my experiences and feelings would be different for someone else in that situation or are different for individuals who lived those times with me. This is me and my story, this is my place to vent a bit. Take my saltiness with a grain of salt when you feel you need to.Â
A joke amongst CFers is how âsaltyâ we are. Individuals with CF sweat so much salt that it comes out in crystals on our foreheads sometimes. Of course there is also the fact that almost all of us have gone through hell to be where we are... so yes, she is salty.