— Eumenides (458 BCE)

New Substack posted! Exploring the Ancient Greek Erinyes, also known as the Furies, the daughters of Nyx(Night) and Gaia(Earth)

Romanticizing your life is about appreciating life where you are. Doing the most and the best that you can with what you have, at the moment. It’s okay to aspire for better and to actively be working towards YOUR goals. Sometimes with social media, we get so caught up in viewing the lives of others being shared with us that we develop a taste for a life that isn’t our own. Watching other people live their Best Lives can be inspirational but don’t get sucked into a false reality thinking that you have to live their best lives to achieve yours. Here are a few tips to romanticize the life that you have right now.

1. Stop putting the lives of others on a pedestal.

When you begin to idolize the lives of others you begin to view your own life with discontent. You can do everything you want to do in life. If you have to live on a budget find a way to save to get what you want or find an alternative that is just as good for where you are right now.

Remember that social media is a show. Most influencers or people on these platforms show the things that they know will attract more attention to themselves, this is how they make their money and get their attention. Some things may not be what it seems, which means the glamour may not be all that it is shown to be.

Also, remember that everyone is at different stages of their lives. You may be watching someone living their “best life” traveling, going on all of the most extravagant vacations, eating at the most expensive restaurants, and buying all of the cars, clothes, shoes, and bags a lady could dream of. That is absolutely great for them but don't get down on yourself if you are not there yet. Notice I said YET! You have to realize what it is you want out of your life and what you want to do to achieve your best life. This takes time, attention to detail, planning, and smart moves.

Don't be so focused on the future that you forget how awesome your journey to the future is.

2. Be realistic with where you are in your life

Being realistic with yourself is so important because you only know what you are capable of. Romanticizing your life is not only about what you can afford. It's about you actually enjoying your life. You won't be able to enjoy your life if you are so focused on doing things that are not in your financial bracket. Go on vacations but be down on yourself if you cant go across the country this time. Save your money but don't be so focused on your financial situation that you are too afraid to spend some and live.

3. Do things that you enjoy.

Go out into your city and surrounding areas find new things to do. Take your time to explore your environment, try things you would typically not try. You'd be surprised how much you learn about yourself in the process and how much you are enjoying your days.

4. Get off of social media.

Social media has a way of crumpling our minds and brainwashing us into thinking like all the other users on social media. You get trapped in a virtual world that has limited opportunities for you to grow. Your social media is only showing you what you are used to viewing, there's not much new peeking through.

There's an entire world out there to explore and there is so much about yourself left to learn.

Take yourself on dates, find new restaurants, and treat yourself. During this time you will begin to almost be detoxing but you will notice how much of yourself you are getting familiar with.

Ask yourself all of the questions.

What do you like, why? What don't you like, why? Do you have a favorite color? What do you like to wear? Try new styles for your hair, makeup, outfits. Start reading and open your mind.

Sacred femininity is hoping for a person to be

Kind enough to make you smile

Brave enough to walk you down aisles

Of crooks and criminals

misogynistic hypocrites

Sacred femininity

is being that kind person

Sacred femininity is standing up for women

Standing up for young girls

Standing up for men

Standing up for all humans

Regardless of color gender or religion

Sacred femininity is being a good person

Being down to earth enough to be kind to others humans

Sacred femininity is taking off the rose colored glasses

Acknowledging the problem and always taking action

Sacred femininity is admitting you’re not perfect

But not being so vain as to bring down another person

Sacred femininity is building others up

Helping others out

Sacred femininity is being a kind human.