This is a discussion post
Yk I was on a lesbian subreddit earlier and I saw a post from someone confused if the should identify as bisexual or as a lesbian as the like multiple genders not including men. (So bisexual by its actual definition meaning attraction to 2+ genders rather than being attracted to men and women specifically).
And of course labels are supposed to be tools for communication and cultural identification.
Lesbianism has always been diverse in gender expression, presentation, and performance, so this really made me think. My lesbianism has and will always include women genderqueer people (not to be seen as women-lite). Lesbianism as we know it today has a rich history and itâd be factually wrong (and terfy) to say that it is 100% strictly wlw for every lesbian ever. Some lesbians are strictly binary wlw and thatâs great. Some other lesbians are nmlnm and thatâs also great. Expansive nmlnm lesbians arenât taking away anything those that are strictly wlw. They both share the experience of not being attracted to men.
I know people seem to hate the term âbisexual lesbianâ as the main people to try to claim that are bisexuals that are attracted to both men and women but claim to have a preference for women. As people will always have some minor variations I wouldnât be bothered by the term if it was use in the way OP referenced if they felt as though they NEED to make that distinction for whatever reason. It may be redundant to some as Lesbianism is historically diverse. I wouldnât identify with that myself as Lesbian to me fits like a well loved pair of gloves. On the contrary, it may have its uses in scenarios using hyper-specific technical language. I know some people donât like to use nmlnm for various reasons so it may be an alternative for that. And ultimately Iâm not someone to yuck someoneâs yum without concern. Plus shit ainât hurting anyone so have no reason to hate.
Anyways I just thought it was interesting so I want to hear others opinions on it, if any. The sociologist in me goes crazy for linguistics so please comment and share your thoughts regardless of stance! Itâs so fun to just think about stuff sometimes :)