#did advice

I feel like that's such a big issue that isn't talked about a lot in the community and isn't taught to newly discovered systems. And it's such an important part of figuring your system out, this acceptance that even with your alters around, that doesn't make y'all perfect!! That doesn't make you functional, and it doesn't get rid of your issues, it just lands a tool! And tools need to be learned to use, like everything in your life. If you hand a toddler a fork and tell them to work with it, it doesn't matter that it always existed. The toddler has no idea how to use it, and they still gotta figure it out! And that process and the end result is different for everyone!

Y'all need to figure out what works for you, y'all. Especially those of you systems who discovered themselves recently or who are still figuring themselves out. Nothing is perfect, nobody is perfect, a system doesn't guarantee you a perfect life; it doesn't mean that just cause you have, say, alters in your system who formed to take care of the body, then your body will be awesome, amazing, you'll feel great physically, stop all self-destructive habits, etc.

Cut yourselves some slack. It's okay.

Fellow systems how do you keep someone deep in denial from deleting all your stuff? We lost our entire simply plural & backups, I lost my Discord, my YT, my notes on my phone and my account here and it's some regular thing atp. We can't access therapy yet and every intervention comes from our psychiatrist who is overwhelmed and tries to refer us to her colleague therapist who is experienced. Even just talking about all this stuff seemingly makes some of us lose it. Someone also tries to write e-mails of "I'm fine no DID won't come back"...

We are modular so we switch uncontrollably and the tiny fragments who did this will just f off when you confront their denial. We don't have any major successes because the fully configured modular alters who seem to "get it" will re-configure with that denying little b and delete and destroy things.

TW for "ramcoa"/ oea & programming/ tbmc/ itbc

We also have programs around our symptoms not being real, never having experienced anything - as in "you dreamt it this is a dream" and so on - and programmed alters who try to erase "proof", we had to bring our diary once and that alter snatched it from the psychiatrist' hands and ripped the pages. I can't go too much into detail because that is. Upsetting. Especially talking about other alters as if they're "real" stresses our nervous system and we often mask even when we are told to reveal ourselves out of horror.

Losing it.

-Aux (he/xe)

Hi, my name is Rhea (she/they) — and I’m a system offering DID-affirming advocacy, peer support, and consulting for folks navigating trauma, plurality, or just trying to survive in a world not built for us.

I’m not a therapist. I’m something different:

I’ve lived it.

I’ve escaped it.

I’m still in it.

I’m just a person with a map, working on building something better with every part of me.

If you’re a system in need of:

🌀 Trauma-informed listening

🧷 Gentle grounding or co-regulation

🗝️ Peer-to-peer consulting on inner world mapping, communication, safety planning, or integration

📚 Help explaining DID to others in your life

💌 Space to be messy, mystical, curious, or just real — without being pathologized

—then you might find what you’re looking for here.

DM me to connect, or reblog to boost.

You are not alone in this.

And you don't have to do it the clinical way to do it right.

My credentials:

🧠 Lived experience advocate

🗝️ Over a decade of system work, inner world development, and trauma recovery

💌 Certified in peer support & active in survivor-led mutual aid networks

💪🏻 System work focused on safety planning, inner communication, trauma-informed support

🐈‍⬛ Strong roots in queer & survivor-led advocacy spaces

🎓 Former psych and philosophy student (3.7 GPA, dropped out for survival)

👥 Experience supporting others in DID, CPTSD, trafficking recovery, and identity reclamation

Sliding scale / mutual aid friendly. No weird vibes, no savior complex. Just another system trying to help you stay intact in the swirl.

You are not broken. You are not too much.

Wherever you are on your journey, you deserve to be met there.

I recently (months ago, lol) realized that I have a worse perception of colors than other alters in my system. Shades and cool tones are hard for me, while others in my system can get a perfect score on those color tests.

But today I just realized I can’t make out the clock from my work bend?? (While others can)

I wear glasses, but .. ?? has anyone else experienced differences like this?

I dont fucking know what's going on either lmao depersonalization so bad I can't go outside without "putting the right face on" and everytime I come home I don't recognize myself in the elevator mirror.

So "putting the right face on" makes me have meltdowns because it's too hard to figure out which one. So I just don't go outside lol

Anyways, here's a "DID?" Related art dump idfk