#deathcare

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about me

⚰︎ my name is thorne (he/him) (19)

⚰︎ i’m a transmasc butch lesbian

⚰︎ i’m a 2nd year mortuary science student working at a funeral home

⚰︎ this is to document my thoughts and love of all things death care

dni: transphobes, homophobes, trumpies, racists, etc.

This section is dedicated to the "Death-Care Professionals" of the community—those already licensed, those currently in the "prep room," and the students working toward the threshold.

🏛️ The Path to Licensure

Becoming a funeral professional is a marathon, not a sprint. We’ve archived the essential steps to help you navigate the journey:

The Academic Phase: Choosing the right mortuary science program (ABFSE accreditation guide).

The Board Exams (NBE): Resources for studying for the Arts and Sciences exams without losing your mind.

The Apprenticeship: How to find a mentor, what to ask during your first interview at a firm, and the "unspoken rules" of the first six months.

Licensure by State: A growing directory of state-specific requirements (US/International).

🛠️ Industry Tools & Reviews

We test the gear so you don't have to waste your apprentice wages.

Restorative Art Kits: Deep dives into waxes, cosmetics, and feature-setting tools.

Software for the Modern Firm: Comparing case management systems (from cloud-based apps to traditional legacy software).

The "Funeral Director's Uniform": * The Shoe Guide: Our community-voted list of the best footwear for standing 12 hours on marble floors.

The Suit Guide: Durable, professional fabrics that hold up in the prep room and the chapel.

🧠 The Mental Toll & Longevity

This industry has a high burnout rate. We believe in "sustaining the server."

Compassion Fatigue: How to tell when you've reached your limit and how to recharge.

The "Off-Call" Life: Strategies for maintaining a personal life while tied to a pager.

Peer Support: Connect with other "Across the River" pros who understand the unique dark humor and heavy heart of this work.

Death avoidance is not an individual failing; it’s a cultural one. Facing death is not for the faint-hearted. It is far too challenging to expect that each citizen will do so on his or her own. Death acceptance is the responsibility of all death professionals—funeral directors, cemetery managers, hospital workers. It is the responsibility of those who have been tasked with creating physical and emotional environments where safe, open interaction with death and dead bodies is possible.

-Power of Attorney expires upon death, it is NOT the same as an estate executor (I will repeat this every single dang time I make one of these posts)

-If you have found family who you want to take over your death plans upon passing, because you know your birth family will not honour your wishes - GET THAT SHIT IN WRITING.

Seriously!! If you are age of majority (most places 18) and legally able to look until putting together a will, do so!! (And make sure to regularly update it as needed, and notify the people who should know that you have done so!!)

Let the people close to you know what you want done! (Ex: burial, cremation, body donation, if you actually want a funeral service etc.)

ALSO- LOOK INTO PUTTING TOGETHER AN ADVANCE DIRECTIVE.

Death waits for no one, and I get it is a scary topic to address for a lot of folks, but it's even scarier for your loved ones to lose you and have absolutely zero idea on how to move forward (or absolutely zero say in how your community says goodbye to you if you werent on good terms with your immediate next of kin whose now in charge of your arrangements.)

Okay cool? Cool.